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Unless they are made incapable of doing so they have no reason to stop.
Socialized concepts are just manufactured ways of conformity...they do not override human desire.
Look up unwed teen pregnancy rates and then compare them to unwed Christian teen pregnancies.
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I not here to condemn anyone here, yet for me I see abstaining sex until marriage is the wisest way. Yes there are still many that do hold on to that belief on waiting until marriage, yet of course it is not common.
It's because people aren't looking at marriage as the "end game" anymore.
The biggest problem is when one that waits meets someone who didn't.
From way I've read alot of people wait a long time to get married like 27 or 30 maybe even later! Who's gonna wait that long?
The issue isn't even the length of time. The issue is, why would anyone get married before they found out if they and their spouse were sexually compatible? It is just crazy...
why on earth would you marry someone you havent slept with.
I couldn't imagine marrying someone I hadn't had sex with beforehand.
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It exsisted before the concept of marriage was even "a thing"
It will exsist long after it's gone, assimilated and swallowed by current "standards"
Marriage is a human creation. Sex, it's purpose and it's function are not.
My thoughts exactly.
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So the only response options are "it's wrong," "it's okay," and "it doesn't matter"?!?
There needs to be a fourth choice: "It's amazing."
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If anyone takes the Bible seriously, they might consider what God thinks about it. After all, He is the ultimate judge. Here's what the Bible says:
1Co 6:9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders
1Co 6:10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
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Interesting stuff. Did God really say that or was it someone else maybe? Like a mortal man of some sort?
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That's great that you have a book you really like. I have a few, too.
Again, exactly.
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There isn't anything wrong with sex, but there can be an emotional cost of treating it, and the people you have it with, too casually. I think it's one of those things where you definitely need to think before your act, and not just take what you can get. It's part of being a good human. But that doesn't mean you need to wait for a marriage that may never happen.
I agree here, too. I don't think there is anything morally wrong with sex itself, but of course you have to be responsible regarding pregnancy, cheating, etc.
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I not here to condemn anyone here, yet for me I see abstaining sex until marriage is the wisest way. Yes there are still many that do hold on to that belief on waiting until marriage, yet of course it is not common.
Everyone is free to have their own opinions, for sure.
It tends to result in people marrying young. It's just unrealistic to expect most to wait for sex until they are emotionally mature enough for marriage, especially to make a good choice in a partner.
However, if it must be one or the other (marry young or wait), then I suppose sexual frustration is better than a bad marriage too young.
Promiscuity raises a lot of its own problems too, especially when unwanted pregnancy & children become involved. It's not realistic to think condoms or the pill solve the social problems that arise there. Not sure what is really ideal.
If God wants us to wait, then he has pulled quite a cruel joke with the timing of our sexual & emotional development.
It tends to result in people marrying young. It's just unrealistic to expect most to wait for sex until they are emotionally mature enough for marriage, especially to make a good choice in a partner.
However, if it must be one or the other (marry young or wait), then I suppose sexual frustration is better than a bad marriage too young.
Promiscuity raises a lot of its own problems too, especially when unwanted pregnancy & children become involved. It's not realistic to think condoms or the pill solve the social problems that arise there. Not sure what is really ideal.
If God wants us to wait, then he has pulled quite a cruel joke with the timing of our sexual & emotional development.
Why should people wait until they have a piece of paper from the government before having sex with each other? I am glad that I never married my first boyfriend. His penis was smaller than a tampon. We were both virgins when we met and I thought that I could love him and enjoy sex with him in spite of his small penis but clearly not. I met a new guy about a year after I broke up with my ex and it turns out that my ex's micropenis didn't even break my hymen because I bled the first time that I had sex with the new guy (7 inches). No wonder I hated having sex with my ex. I had wondered why sex with my ex was always so painful even though he was so small.
Many if not most of these "waiting until marriage"-types have oral/anal/digital sex because supposedly oral/anal/digital sex don't "count" as real sex which is completely ridiculous. I cannot take anyone seriously if they want to wait until marriage but they think giving/receiving blowjobs before marriage is somehow permissible. I'm not religious myself but if God wanted you to save your body for your wife/husband, then why would God think that was acceptable to have oral/anal/digital sex with someone who is not your wife or husband? That makes absolutely no sense whatsoever.
Quite frankly, I could not care less what the bible says. The bible also says to kill children for disobeying their parents. People should follow all of the bible or none of it at all. What is the point in cherry picking which parts of the bible you want to follow?
30 is when people are finally mature enough (in theory, haha) to make a good choice for marriage. 30 isn't a long time. It just seems like it, because you're in your teens. Wait 'til you get to 29, then 30 won't seem so far away.
What Ruth said. Grow up a little, then worry about it then.
So the only response options are "it's wrong," "it's okay," and "it doesn't matter"?!?
There needs to be a fourth choice: "It's amazing."
No, the fourth choice should be "It's essential."
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