Hard to Maintain Relationships with women/friends due to Job (date, boyfriend)

[ItsFeldhoos]

Hey everyone I've been a Bering sea fisherman basically since i graduated high school.I want to get opinions on what others think of my social situation, and possible ways i could help remedy it. I've been recently been finding it extremely hard to maintain relationships with both my friends and women in my life because of the nature of my work (At sea about 7 months of the year). I'm 24 years old, and would love nothing more than to come home from working my butt off for months to a loving girl friend, and buddies for football and pizza. But unfortunately It's come to a point where I very rarely get invited to any social events or gatherings, and women pretty much refuse to date me because there's "no point".I feel like I've Binded myself to a life full of meaningless Flings and I basically have to decide between the financial freedom my job offers me, and being an outcast.

[elnina]

That's ... tough. Kind of a job for loners who don't mind solitude.

[intelfan11315]

I think you just need to get your priorities straight. Everyone leads a different life and has to do things their own way, you just have to decide what you want to do.

Not too many women out there are going to deal with they boyfriend/husband being gone for 7 months out of the year.

[relationshippro]

Hard to Maintain Relationships with women/friends due to Job

Its really very tough.. I have the same problem and I am also looking for the solution of this kind of problem..

[elnina]

Originally Posted by burgler09

I think you just need to get your priorities straight. Everyone leads a different life and has to do things their own way, you just have to decide what you want to do.

Not too many women out there are going to deal with they boyfriend/husband being gone for 7 months out of the year.

If everyone would think your way, no one would do those jobs. ( military, truckers, contractors working overseas, marine crew etc.)
There must be other solutions.

[NilaJones]

What do the other guys on the crew do?

I imagine it's not a job you will want to do forever (when you are 45, for example). Maybe you can work and save money now, and find a mate after you 'retire' to another line of work?

As for friends, you probably have to contact them, when you get off the boat. They might not know to call/text you, but they might be glad to see you!

[usamathman]

Originally Posted by ItsFeldhoos

Hey everyone I've been a Bering sea fisherman basically since i graduated high school.I want to get opinions on what others think of my social situation, and possible ways i could help remedy it. I've been recently been finding it extremely hard to maintain relationships with both my friends and women in my life because of the nature of my work (At sea about 7 months of the year). I'm 24 years old, and would love nothing more than to come home from working my butt off for months to a loving girl friend, and buddies for football and pizza. But unfortunately It's come to a point where I very rarely get invited to any social events or gatherings, and women pretty much refuse to date me because there's "no point".I feel like I've Binded myself to a life full of meaningless Flings and I basically have to decide between the financial freedom my job offers me, and being an outcast.

If finding a meaningful relationship is your goal then you need to begin Stacking your money up and looking into alternative careers.

There are tons of 30-40-50 something singles that putt their job above finding love. They are regretting this now.

Stack that money up dude for the next X years and make a plan to head into another career field.

Don't wait till you are 35 or 40. It gets harder to find a suitable mate as you get older.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by ItsFeldhoos

Hey everyone I've been a Bering sea fisherman basically since i graduated high school.I want to get opinions on what others think of my social situation, and possible ways i could help remedy it. I've been recently been finding it extremely hard to maintain relationships with both my friends and women in my life because of the nature of my work (At sea about 7 months of the year). I'm 24 years old, and would love nothing more than to come home from working my butt off for months to a loving girl friend, and buddies for football and pizza. But unfortunately It's come to a point where I very rarely get invited to any social events or gatherings, and women pretty much refuse to date me because there's "no point".I feel like I've Binded myself to a life full of meaningless Flings and I basically have to decide between the financial freedom my job offers me, and being an outcast.

At the very least, you know what you want in life, this cannot be a bad thing.
Women come and go, and true friends will never abandon you just because you are "busy". I am at a point in my life where my big project is important to me. But it doesn't mean a relationship / friendship / family and career cannot co-exist. You have to find some balance in your life, otherwise you are going to drive yourself nuts.

[Mikala43]

If women will date soldiers who get deployed women will date someone in your situation. Yes, the pool might be smaller, but at least those women are being upfront with you.

Keep trying. What do your fellow fishermen do and what are their lives like?

[s1alker]

I would gather the majority of guys that do those kinds of jobs are sending money back home to their families.