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The other thing that I'm curious about is why do some people look at a profile repeatedly but never even say hello, or wink/whatever? I'm not talking about clicking on one and then realizing you've already seen it. I'm talking about checking one out every day for over a week.
Oh, I can answer this!
I used to do it when I did OLD.
For me it pretty much "is" realizing I already saw it. I just can't remember faces is all it boils down to. I would click on a profile and read it and think, "nah, I am not a match for him," and move on. Next day I would search, click on the profiles and realize that I had actually just looked at the same profiles the day before... I completely forgot their faces. And yes, sometimes I would do this 2, 3 days in a row (although never for a whole week... never checked out the site that much.) I literally just didn't remember the person's face. Usually after making that mistake 3-4 times I remembered though.
I also think some people like to window shop. It's kind of creepy, but it happens. They like the way you look and just keep looking at you but never say a word. Like a guy who might stare at you from across the room and never says a word and quickly gets up to leave if you walk up to him. Except online.
Now, from a guy's perspective, detailed emails to everybody he's potentially interested in does add up, I know from experience. I still don't agree with resorting to one-word messages, but I understand why they'd do it better.
(I just chose that response one to quote to get back on this subject).
I have been on and off the OLD sites for the last 4-ish years. I tend to put up profiles and delete them rather quickly; I think the longest I've had one up is 3 months. Now, I'm not saying this holds true for everyone by any means, but in my experience, the one-word messages are the ones that quickly seem to lead to "so do u wanna hookup?" if they lead past the first exchange of "hellos."
Responded to the one-word message the other day. Message 3 from him was "wanna fool around?"
What Timberline wrote. Again, I'm not being snobby nor am I suggesting the pool of matches I am getting are better than something like OKCupid or POF simply because they pay for it. It just means they are more serious about it.
Whoa, whoa, whoa....By what criteria are we judging the 'seriousness' of people on any online dating site?
Because if a date says "I'm not looking for something serious" I just assume it means "I'm just not that into you." I don't think it means "If I were really serious I'd be looking on eHarmony.
I don't think i've met a slew of men on OK Cupid who aren't seriously looking for a relationship. It think I've met a slew of men who were not the guy I was looking for.
New to online dating, which would you guys reccomend is the best site? POF, Match, Eharmony, etc. So many to choose from lol.
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Depends on where you're located. I'd avoid the fee based sites. They are notorious for displaying fake and inactive profiles as active users to entice members to keep paying.
In this area, CL has a reputation for primarily being used by married people looking to have lunchtime affairs, POF is a "cesspool" and OKC is somewhat okay for the 30's and 40's crowd, as long as you're willing to be patient and don't actually expect to meet your life partner-it's a dating site but very few find it to be a relationship site.
Agreed. Avoid the money sucking sites, like e harmony, and focus on the free sites, but either way beware of the fake profiles and scammers. Men and women both do this.
I had to test the POF waters as an experiment and it's kind of interesting, there's some decent looking women on there. Kind of learning the ropes, some woman who appears to be real wanted a "meet" already but it spooked me and I logged out. I guess it's pretty common to put someone on hold for a bit and think about it?
I had to test the POF waters as an experiment and it's kind of interesting, there's some decent looking women on there. Kind of learning the ropes, some woman who appears to be real wanted a "meet" already but it spooked me and I logged out. I guess it's pretty common to put someone on hold for a bit and think about it?
Not really but it happens I guess. Just tell her you're still new at this and you spooked if you still want to see her. The main diff I've found with POF and OKC is that the folks on POF are in much more of a hurry to meet and see if there's anything there--I don't know if it's a lower tolerance for wasting time or a lower tolerance for writing messages back and forth, but I prefer OKC. Got a date on Monday with one I really like so far, based on his emails anyway.
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