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She says and I quote (roughly): You're not good looking. I've been with guys much hotter. But it doesn't matter - you are a very good person. That's why I am with you.
Although it hurt, I feel like I've fallen into my own trap - because I always say looks don't matter, only personality does. So now I can't even confront her. Still, it hurts to know that your SO doesn't think you're attractive. I already have low self-esteem and think I am a 3 even when most people say I am an 8. But for gf to treat me like a 3 is
She says and I quote (roughly): You're not good looking. I've been with guys much hotter. But it doesn't matter - you are a very good person. That's why I am with you.
Although it hurt, I feel like I've fallen into my own trap - because I always say looks don't matter, only personality does. So now I can't even confront her. Still, it hurts to know that your SO doesn't think you're attractive. I already have low self-esteem and think I am a 3 even when most people say I am an 8. But for gf to treat me like a 3 is
Am I wasting my time with her?
Ugh, yeah, that's hurtful. HOWEVER, if in conversation you've encouraged this talk about how unimportant looks are, then put in that context, it isn't terrible of her to say (plus, only you know her tone of voice when she said it, etc).
I don't think you are wasting your time with her. Looks like you may need to discuss this with her to clear the air.
I dated a guy in college that really was not attractive at all. He would comment and joke that he knew he wasn't good looking enough to be with me. Maybe other friends we hung out with took their cues from him and would joke "How'd you land her? How is it that she's with you?" I have no idea if this ever annoyed him. I'm trying to remember if I ever made a joke about his looks - I don't think so. But from my perspective, I would have been shocked to find out it bothered him.
Maybe your girlfriend has no idea this was insulting to you.
Probably. She is disrespectful and selfish. One's 'mate' should be supportive, encouraging, and kind. Please think long and hard about you continuing with her. Me? I wouldn't.
Probably. She is disrespectful and selfish. One's 'mate' should be supportive, encouraging, and kind. Please think long and hard about you continuing with her. Me? I wouldn't.
Exactly. A gf who is disrespectful and selfish only gets more disrespectful and selfish. Do you feel like you deserve that?
Probably. She is disrespectful and selfish. One's 'mate' should be supportive, encouraging, and kind. Please think long and hard about you continuing with her. Me? I wouldn't.
I agree. Being kind to your loved one is a cornerstone of a good relationship. Saying something hurtful like that isn't cool at all.
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