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Get her number, talk to her and meet in a public place. Why live in fear? How are you ever going to get a quality girl if you don't even think you can attract one?
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Last evening, out of the blue, I got a message from a woman on a mainstream OLD site; she said she wants to meet me. She lives a couple hours from me and wants to host. Whoa, that's a first. I've received a few dozen or so unsolicited messages, and have had abut as many conversations, but this was the first message expressing a desire to meet me.
So the next step of course is to read her profile. Has diverse interests and experience including several foreign languages, STEM, and more. Only one pic, and she is knockout gorgeous in just the precise way for which I had always hoped. Whoa.
I'm thinking this could be a scam, but I can't think of anything I have that she woulld want in a scam - my kidneys? Maybe she liked my profile and wasn't horrified by my picture.
But even if this is entirely legit, I can not imagine how this could possibly ever go anywhere. Perhaps with a career comparable to hers, but not at all with a crummy dead-end job.
What do you all make of this?
i know a (female) anesthesiologist -- who in her case is very wealthy, and makes much more than a typical doctor -- who married a local bartender / weed dealer with a high school degree.
reason being, i think, because the guy in question is a lot of fun, he is cool, and other cool people like him. they party really hard for people their age.
my point is that you shouldn't make assumptions about this.
Meh. I dunno. I'm white collar and date mostly blue-collar guys. Though they generally have some sort of skilled trade and a career path. Here's my thing about this chick - she's a few hours away, yet she wants YOU to come to her. Sketchy. And inconsiderate. You don't have a car - why didn't she propose meeting halfway between you or swinging by your town?
She asks to meet on the first email. VERY sketchy. I dunno, call me crazy, but (as a woman with some shreds of self-preservation) I don't think that's something a woman would do. You want to get a feel for a guy first - profiles lie, but a series of emails can be VERY revealing. I dunno - guys on C-D, have you ever had a woman ask to meet in the initial email?
At best, she's an inconsiderate weirdo who thinks you can be summoned at will. At worst, you'll wake up in a bathtub full of ice and missing your right kidney.
Don't take this the wrong way, but are you particularly hot? Do you have something really interesting in your profile?
I would say exchange a few emails first. Make her work a little harder and find out more about her.
And she may not show up in your thread of profile visitors because she blocked that function (I think most sites let you do that).
But still, I do suspect a scam. Admittedly, that may be just because it's not how I would operate. It just sounds off though.
I am seeing someone in a LDR for the last 8 months. We met when I was unemployed and she didn't care about that. Those are the type of women I'd prefer to meet as I do not want to be bought, nor do I want to buy anyone. I take care of my own business and that's how it should be.
To say I strongly disagree with the thread title would be an understatement.
Meh. I dunno. I'm white collar and date mostly blue-collar guys. Though they generally have some sort of skilled trade and a career path. Here's my thing about this chick - she's a few hours away, yet she wants YOU to come to her. Sketchy. And inconsiderate. You don't have a car - why didn't she propose meeting halfway between you or swinging by your town?
She asks to meet on the first email. VERY sketchy. I dunno, call me crazy, but (as a woman with some shreds of self-preservation) I don't think that's something a woman would do. You want to get a feel for a guy first - profiles lie, but a series of emails can be VERY revealing. I dunno - guys on C-D, have you ever had a woman ask to meet in the initial email?
At best, she's an inconsiderate weirdo who thinks you can be summoned at will. At worst, you'll wake up in a bathtub full of ice and missing your right kidney.
Don't take this the wrong way, but are you particularly hot? Do you have something really interesting in your profile?
I would say exchange a few emails first. Make her work a little harder and find out more about her.
And she may not show up in your thread of profile visitors because she blocked that function (I think most sites let you do that).
But still, I do suspect a scam. Admittedly, that may be just because it's not how I would operate. It just sounds off though.
No i don't think I'm hot, but apparently some like my profile; about 10% of the women (late 40s to late 50s) who viewed my profile have initiated contact. If I were in, say, my 30s, I don't think I'd get one-tenth as many messages.
This. Either go out with her or don't go out with her-- no skin off our nards either way. If you choose not to, however, don't create threads complaining about how she probably wouldn't like you anyway because of your job. Who cares? If that's true, fine one who will or find a new job. Complaining about it on the internet accomplishes nothing for you.
Last evening, out of the blue, I got a message from a woman on a mainstream OLD site; she said she wants to meet me. She lives a couple hours from me and wants to host. Whoa, that's a first. I've received a few dozen or so unsolicited messages, and have had abut as many conversations, but this was the first message expressing a desire to meet me.
So the next step of course is to read her profile. Has diverse interests and experience including several foreign languages, STEM, and more. Only one pic, and she is knockout gorgeous in just the precise way for which I had always hoped. Whoa.
I'm thinking this could be a scam, but I can't think of anything I have that she woulld want in a scam - my kidneys? Maybe she liked my profile and wasn't horrified by my picture.
But even if this is entirely legit, I can not imagine how this could possibly ever go anywhere. Perhaps with a career comparable to hers, but not at all with a crummy dead-end job.
What do you all make of this?
If I was still doing online dating I would never fall for this.
Easy way to elimate her as a possibility. Have her send you some more pictures of herself. It could be she had just one because she stole it from the internet. But you're right, do a lot of checking and if you do, meet in a public place and with a friend with you.
The whole thing seems fishy to me too... although most scammers don't want to meet right away. They want to chat forever, give you some sob story, and tick you into wiring them money. But I would still be wary. You could always meet her on neutral ground (but don't go home with her and always watch your drink or have a friend there like others mentioned).
For what it's worth, I am white collar myself and tend to prefer blue collar men. I grew up in a blue collar, working class family, most of my friends are blue collar (or are like me, white collar and came from working class families) and it's just where I feel comfortable.
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