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Sounds like he was serious about the idea of marriage, saw your negative (from his point of view) reaction, and only said he was kidding because of that. He may be wondering now if he's wasting time in a relationship which may not have a long-term future, and it will definitely be a while before he'll bring up the topic again. If you're not ready to marry him now, that's fine, but it would probably make him feel relieved to hear it's a topic you could see revisiting in the future.
He'll ask you again in due time. Meanwhile, those conversations about kids-someday, etc. will provide the buildup. Why not take a walk through a nice residential neighborhood, and fantasize about what kind of house you two would like someday? Take turns pointing out your favorite features of one house or another. I love looking at architecture!
In fact, I'll go you one further. If you've been dating someone for six months and you can't decide whether you want a deeper, fuller relationship, then you need to just go ahead and bail. It's better that way.
Absolutely....6 months and you aren't sure if she is your girlfriend? Get out....she ain't!
In fact, I'll go you one further. If you've been dating someone for six months and you can't decide whether you want a deeper, fuller relationship, then you need to just go ahead and bail. It's better that way.
Not sure what you are saying here. One cannot be content to just be in a relationship with someone, as is, without getting married? Me and my guy are in as "deep and full" as we can be, but we have absolutely no desire to marry. You think we should bail?
Of course he meant it, why else would he say it? Hopefully your reaction didn't scare him off from asking again some day. It sounds more like you were spooked at the idea of marriage and maybe not as committed to the relationship as he appears to be.
I don't blame her. He doesn't bring up the topic of marriage in the form of a discussion, doesn't ask, doesn't allude to planning for it in the future. Rather, he blurts out "let's get married", completely out of the blue. It's not her reaction that's inappropriate, it's him blindsiding her with it.
She's not spooked about marriage she's startled that the way he brought it up came out of nowhere, and was conveyed in the form of an impulsive decision he'd made on his own without even consulting her. If you haven't been talking about the future and are only at 6 months of dating, I'd be more surprised that he's surprised by her reaction.
I wanna marry someone now and haven't even gone on an official date yet.
Unless this is a girl you've been good friends with for at least a few years, this is just absurd.
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A guy knows after a few weeks to a month usually.
I don't think so, that short a time and I don't even know her middle name, let alone if I want to marry her. 6 months isn't that long unless you were already good friends. I would say minimum 1 year, longer if you're younger and/or lack relationship experience.
Unless this is a girl you've been good friends with for at least a few years, this is just absurd.
I don't think so, that short a time and I don't even know her middle name, let alone if I want to marry her. 6 months isn't that long unless you were already good friends. I would say minimum 1 year, longer if you're younger and/or lack relationship experience.
I didn't mean "ask" them to marry you in a month. I meant "knowing" she "could" be someone you would/will marry. Of course the guys who date for "tail" and "fun" won't ever feel this way. They're still confused after stringing some gal along ten years. Are you my girlfriend?? They aren't even sure.
Everybody else is not usually with the same one 1-6 months if she is not your type or she has struck out all possibilities of being in a long term relationship with. I'd rather be single than have to sleep out in the garage and hide in the basement. I can tell if I want to go past a "first date" or not on the first night as well. If not, there won't be a second date.
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