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Old 04-22-2014, 06:48 PM
 
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I've been out of the dating scene for a while now and I'm just starting to get back in. Moved to a new city so it's kind of weird, and I'm trying to figure out WTF guys want!!

Guys on here are always saying that girls should initiate the conversation, but I have no idea how to do this. I'm so out of practice.

Example #1:

I'm at the local pharmacy. Just got done with a run so I'm sweaty, but I don't sweat a lot so I'm not super gross or anything. There's a cute guy at the counter waiting for the cashier to come up and ring him out. He smiles at me. I feel like an idiot because I'm 1.) buying blister bandages, which doesn't exactly scream "sexy." 2.) I have no idea if he is smiling at me because he thinks I'm cute, or if he is just being polite, or what.

So I just give a quick smile and look away and ignore him, because I am a moron.

Example #2:

I just get done with a class I'm taking. It's not the normal session I usually take, so there are people that I don't really know there. One of them is a guy who is pretty cute. On the walk home I end up standing next to him on the street corner. He's got his earbuds in so I say "Hey, it's you."

He takes his earbuds out and starts talking. Asks me where I'm going, and I say home. He asks if a certain theater is having shows that night, and I say I have no idea. He tells me he's on his way to work, and instead of saying something like "where do you work?" I just say "oh, cool." Finally he kind of gives up talking to me and crosses the street, and he reminds me of his name as he walks away. I don't know if I'm supposed to give him mine or just assume he is being cordial.


Again, because I am a moron.


Bottom line is, I'm not sure if these guys want to be approached or if I'm misreading signals. I don't want to be some creepy chick who hits on random dudes at the pharmacy or on the street corner, and I also assume that if they were really that into me they'd be the ones doing the chasing.

Am I right about this, or should I have tried a little harder?
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Old 04-22-2014, 06:50 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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welcome to a guys world
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Old 04-22-2014, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Um just talk to them like they are a human being?
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Old 04-22-2014, 06:55 PM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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If you just moved to the city, USE IT.

"Hey, do you know if ... ?"

"You know, I actually just recently moved here and didn't even know about that place! What is it?"


Conversation continues as he shares his worldly knowledge about whatever the topic is. That helps a guys feel empowered, useful, knowledgeable, helpful, etc. It is an ice breaker.
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Old 04-22-2014, 06:56 PM
 
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Um just talk to them like they are a human being?
If I were capable of this it would be a lot easier!! Did you miss the part where I mentioned that I am a moron?
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Pa
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If I were capable of this it would be a lot easier!! Did you miss the part where I mentioned that I am a moron?
You aren't a moron. Just practice.
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:10 PM
 
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I guess my fear is that the guy will think I'm creepy, or be like "wtf chick, I was just being nice..."
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:19 PM
 
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I guess my fear is that the guy will think I'm creepy, or be like "wtf chick, I was just being nice..."
Are you planning on popping out a boob while you talk to him or something??? You make it sound like an innocent conversation is perverted ...
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:25 PM
 
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Are you planning on popping out a boob while you talk to him or something??? You make it sound like an innocent conversation is perverted ...
Why? Would that be inappropriate?

Seriously though, l guess a big part is that I'm afraid of rejection at any level.

Yes, I know this is what guys go through every time they talk to girls.
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Old 04-22-2014, 07:36 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Are you planning on popping out a boob while you talk to him or something??? You make it sound like an innocent conversation is perverted ...
I'm laughing so hard!!!!!
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