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I've been out of the dating scene for a while now and I'm just starting to get back in. Moved to a new city so it's kind of weird, and I'm trying to figure out WTF guys want!!
Guys on here are always saying that girls should initiate the conversation, but I have no idea how to do this. I'm so out of practice.
Example #1:
I'm at the local pharmacy. Just got done with a run so I'm sweaty, but I don't sweat a lot so I'm not super gross or anything. There's a cute guy at the counter waiting for the cashier to come up and ring him out. He smiles at me. I feel like an idiot because I'm 1.) buying blister bandages, which doesn't exactly scream "sexy." 2.) I have no idea if he is smiling at me because he thinks I'm cute, or if he is just being polite, or what.
So I just give a quick smile and look away and ignore him, because I am a moron.
Example #2:
I just get done with a class I'm taking. It's not the normal session I usually take, so there are people that I don't really know there. One of them is a guy who is pretty cute. On the walk home I end up standing next to him on the street corner. He's got his earbuds in so I say "Hey, it's you."
He takes his earbuds out and starts talking. Asks me where I'm going, and I say home. He asks if a certain theater is having shows that night, and I say I have no idea. He tells me he's on his way to work, and instead of saying something like "where do you work?" I just say "oh, cool." Finally he kind of gives up talking to me and crosses the street, and he reminds me of his name as he walks away. I don't know if I'm supposed to give him mine or just assume he is being cordial.
Again, because I am a moron.
Bottom line is, I'm not sure if these guys want to be approached or if I'm misreading signals. I don't want to be some creepy chick who hits on random dudes at the pharmacy or on the street corner, and I also assume that if they were really that into me they'd be the ones doing the chasing.
Am I right about this, or should I have tried a little harder?
"You know, I actually just recently moved here and didn't even know about that place! What is it?"
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Are you planning on popping out a boob while you talk to him or something??? You make it sound like an innocent conversation is perverted ...
I'm laughing so hard!!!!!
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