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Old 04-28-2014, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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It is my professional opinion that smart people will observe behavior that is not producing results and change that behavior. Even if that means becomming a narrcasist or sociopath if thats what it takes to get the desired results. less intellegent people will keep doing the same thing and expect different results.

That's completely true, however you don't just "become a narcissist" because it might give you results. A lot of terms thrown around here on C-D are pretty serious conditions given to literally everyone who they don't agree with.

I'd say less that 1% of the people that are called sociopaths or narcissists here are actually sociopaths or narcissists.
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Old 04-28-2014, 11:49 AM
 
Location: Helsinki, Finland
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That's completely true, however you don't just "become a narcissist" because it might give you results. A lot of terms thrown around here on C-D are pretty serious conditions given to literally everyone who they don't agree with.

I'd say less that 1% of the people that are called sociopaths or narcissists here are actually sociopaths or narcissists.
True. Even serious medical diagnosis.
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Old 04-28-2014, 12:03 PM
 
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That's completely true, however you don't just "become a narcissist" because it might give you results. A lot of terms thrown around here on C-D are pretty serious conditions given to literally everyone who they don't agree with.

I'd say less that 1% of the people that are called sociopaths or narcissists here are actually sociopaths or narcissists.
I was not strictly adhearing to the medical definion but rather a modification in ones personality to a more CYA way of doing things coupled with a more forward personality.

For instance I know what I want in bed and how often so when I was on OLD after a nice discussion I would just frankly state it. I actually went on 2 dates with a woman and then asked her and she was not interested so I found someone else (a few weeks later) and she text me back and had reconsidered but I was already seeing someone.
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Old 04-28-2014, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I was not strictly adhearing to the medical definion but rather a modification in ones personality to a more CYA way of doing things coupled with a more forward personality.

For instance I know what I want in bed and how often so when I was on OLD after a nice discussion I would just frankly state it. I actually went on 2 dates with a woman and then asked her and she was not interested so I found someone else (a few weeks later) and she text me back and had reconsidered but I was already seeing someone.
Well totally. If more people did that you wouldn't have a bunch of people on here making posts about briefcases and satchels or crying that they will never find a woman to hold.

Most just can't admit they're going out things in the wrong way, so they blame other people.
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Old 04-28-2014, 12:47 PM
 
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No, they wouldn't be ok with it. You're welcome.

QED.
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Old 04-28-2014, 12:47 PM
 
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Narcissism very often stems from deep insecurities and self-loathing. Read up on it if you don't believe me.
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Old 04-28-2014, 01:05 PM
 
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Narcissism very often stems from deep insecurities and self-loathing. Read up on it if you don't believe me.
If you are claiming I am a narcissist, then how am I supposed to cope with the fact that just by searching on Google such disorder is incurable?

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Old 04-28-2014, 01:09 PM
 
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If you are claiming I am a narcissist, then how am I supposed to cope with the fact that just by searching on Google such disorder is incurable?

The same way that other people with incurable afflictions cope. You're not the first; you won't be the last.
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Old 04-28-2014, 01:12 PM
 
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If you are claiming I am a narcissist, then how am I supposed to cope with the fact that just by searching on Google such disorder is incurable?

People with personality disorders learn to have good relationships with others if they pursue therapy seriously. They have to really want to recognize and change their thought and behaviour patterns however.

Why Dialectical Behavior Therapy Works for Narcissistic Personality Disorder Spouses - Yahoo Voices - voices.yahoo.com

The therapy has roots in buddhism, which offers a good foundation for viewing the world and the people in it more holistically.
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Old 04-28-2014, 01:12 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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incurable /= nontreatable
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