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People often make a distinction between infidelities that qualify as standard affairs versus those that only rise to the level of "emotional affairs." I really don't understand how an "emotional affair" works. If there is no inappropriate physical intimacy, on what basis do you regard it as an affair at all?
Must be a female thing..... doubt any guy would do this.
You would be wrong.
Saying this is like saying a man is incapable of having emotional attachment at all
An emotional affair is what it says it is.
Allowing yourself to become emotionally invested in another you are "mentally attracted to" while in a relationship with another.
It has nothing to do with physical acts, though one leads to the other. It's how we as people from bonds and seek intimacy.
You have to understand there is not just "one" person out there that is compatible with you...There are many. When you enter in to a committed relationship and if you respect the fact and the person whom you are involved with, you do not allow yourself to become emotionally entangled in the same way you would with your lover.
Those emotional bonds you share with them is what make you "love" and care for your mate and is the basis on which your whole relationship was formed whether you realized it was happening or not.
It's what keeps you together
The exceptions to this are purely physical relationships or relationships of convenience as there is no emotional bond or attachment involved.
Last edited by rego00123; 04-18-2014 at 01:06 PM..
Reason: Corrections, silly phone correction etc
Must be a female thing..... doubt any guy would do this.
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Originally Posted by krieger00
Not true I seen guys do it all the time.
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Originally Posted by rego00123
You would be wrong.
Saying this is like saying a man is incapable of having emotional attachment at all
An emotional affair is what it says it is.
Allowing yourself to become emotionally invested in another you are "mentally attracted to" while in a relationship with another.
It has nothing to do with physical acts, though one leads to the other. It's how we as people from bonds and seek intimacy.
You have to understand there is not just "one" person out there that is compatible with you...There are many. When you enter in to a committed relationship and if you respect the fact and the person whom you are involved with, you do not allow yourself to become emotionally entangled in the same way you would with your lover.
Those emotional bonds you share with them is what make you "love" and care for your mate and is the basis on which your whole relationship was formed.
It's what keeps you together
Men can, and do, do this....but yes, it's definitely more common for women.
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Bunk term. People connect with other people. Develop relationships.
Cheating and affairs happen with there is physical contact.
Being married or in a monogamous relationship doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't continue to develop and cultivate new relationship and connections. Warm feelings happen, they do, they are always going to happen unless you wall yourself up to not connecting with people at all... but you don't act on them (unless you're a cheater).
Claims of "emotional affairs" are almost always a symptom... symptoms of people thinking communication within the relationship isn't good, that they're not feeling connected, often just insecurity, sometimes there are real issues... but it is pointing the finger and blame at something else instead of looking at the relationship with your SO. Its easy to blame or point fingers at others instead of self examining and communicating.
I'd be much more upset if my husband fell in love with someone else even if he had never been intimate with her physically than if he slept with someone he had no feelings for.
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