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If he hasn't had much of what he wants from women (the conversation and affectionate touch), then I don't think he cares about losing his virginity. Sometimes it's just good to take the natural progression, not rush into sex to get it done with.
In HS being a virgin is a black mark. Meaningful relationships are not worth pursuing in this environment. I'm all about that casual sex. Sophomore year in my friend's closet.
In HS being a virgin is a black mark. Meaningful relationships are not worth pursuing in this environment. I'm all about that casual sex. Sophomore year in my friend's closet.
HS?
I'm past college. I want to commit to a relationship.
In HS being a virgin is a black mark. Meaningful relationships are not worth pursuing in this environment. I'm all about that casual sex. Sophomore year in my friend's closet.
This discussion has nothing to do with highschool. Are you sure you're old enough to be on this forum?
OP: if you want to cuddle with a girl, it's easy; just ask a nice girl on a date and if it goes well, give her a warm hug and a soft, gentle full embrace, at the end There ya go, problem solved! (I've done that before myself, and it felt very nice, emotionally-speaking.)
Possibly the same can't be said for guys depending on other guys for emotional consolation due to traditional male gender roles. Perhaps if notions like 'man up' and 'boys/men don't cry' were heavily lessened and guys were encouraged to be support networks then guys could get emotional consolation/intimacy from other males.
Very fascinating post Yes, it ultimately all goes back to traditional gender roles that strongly discourage boys even at young ages from being (even positively) emotionally-expressive, openly showing affection and their more loving, caring feelings for others, also discouraging boys from things like hugging and kissing, etc., being softer and more tender-hearted, in the interest of a greater "manliness". Boys are taught that showing emotion, even loving emotion, is a weakness and is to be avoided, if they are to be considered as "properly masculine" and "sufficiently manly". As far as I am aware, young girls and women face no such similar stigma or societal pressures.
As a fellow man, I have for pretty much all my life rejected the philosophy that openly showing love and affection is a weakness -- in MHO, it is not a weakness, but in fact is and can be a wonderful source of strength. Of course, I have had mixed results. Some women (in fact perhaps most, to be completely fair and balanced) have been turned off, by my approach. Others have seemed to be much more receptive of it, and have appeared to genuinely enjoy it. I just let it come as it may...in the end, I have to be true to myself and to my own heart, no matter what others think about it...
I think that the song below illustrates the concept well:
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I go for women similar in my looks, and I can find plenty. My problem is my personality and I haven't found someone single that can appreciate the sort of personality that I have as a partner.
A person who goes on internet forums, tells lies, trolls and cries incessantly about being forever alone?
War should not be a part of life. Men should not have to kill each other. And just because a man wants gentle affection does not mean that man will lose his curiosity for how the world works.
I agre wholeheartedly with the OP here I think I can understand and relate to much of where he is coming from, in his desire for non-intimate affection from women...and I think he is 100% right that romantic love is not based on only physical intimacy alone, and that it also has a vitally-important non-intimate component as well...
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There ya go, problem solved! 
(I've done that before myself, and it felt very nice, emotionally-speaking.)
Yes, it ultimately all goes back to traditional gender roles that strongly discourage boys even at young ages from being (even positively) emotionally-expressive, openly showing affection and their more loving, caring feelings for others, also discouraging boys from things like hugging and kissing, etc., being softer and more tender-hearted, in the interest of a greater "manliness". Boys are taught that showing emotion, even loving emotion, is a weakness and is to be avoided, if they are to be considered as "properly masculine" and "sufficiently manly". As far as I am aware, young girls and women face no such similar stigma or societal pressures. 
I think I can understand and relate to much of where he is coming from, in his desire for non-intimate affection from women...and I think he is 100% right that romantic love is not based on only physical intimacy alone, and that it also has a vitally-important non-intimate component as well...
