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It doesn't matter if someone is coming on to you or not. It's still wrong. Why play a part? Be the better person and just walk away. Life isn't always about you.
It always depends.
If I have GENUINE feelings for someone and get signs like that, I would try to pursue my happiness. But only if she says she is unhappy in her current relationship. Of course I wouldn't try anything if she tells me how happy she is with the bf. It would certainly be wrong trying to break that up.
We don't even know - is she moving to TX where the bf is waiting for her? Did I miss that? I thought she is moving away on her own to her hometown and the bf is not there.
If I have GENUINE feelings for someone and get signs like that, I would try to pursue my happiness. But only if she says she is unhappy in her current relationship. Of course I wouldn't try anything if she tells me how happy she is with the bf. It would certainly be wrong trying to break that up.
We don't even know - is she moving to TX where the bf is waiting for her? Did I miss that? I thought she is moving away on her own to her hometown and the bf is not there.
I understand what you mean, but you can't just throw the possibility of her boyfriend's feelings out like that. And you have another variable, you don't know what her relationship is like, for all we know she could just be using both of them. Why would you even want to be with a person like that, if she will step out on him what makes you think she won't do the same to you?
Why put yourself in a position like that? Whether someone is happy or not in relationship you should still respect that boundary and not move in someone who is currently committed. That is extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate. I understand you want to be happy but taking someone else's happiness away from them is not the way to go about doing it. Find your own. If that person is unhappy at least give them a chance to end that relationship before you make a move on anything. Because in this situation you are just setting yourself up to be used. Why would you even allow yourself to develop feelings for someone in a relationship anyway? That never works out.
Well, IF she would be a good gf, she wouldn't hang out with the OP constantly, right?
So if she doesn't care, why should OP??
It's not like he makes her do stuff she doesn't want to. SHE is coming over constantly until the morning hours and SHE wants to get drunk with him. I'd buy another bottle of wine, drink it with her and accidentally slip and fall into her when she is naked.
Lol. True, however, it doesn't make it right, Eve.
Personally, a woman like that deserves the pump and dump
I suspect the OP's view of how things are, are completely skewed which is why just about everything he's saying doesn't add up/make sense.
Spot on!
I had a best guy friend in high school. We hung out ALL the time...I'd introduce him to girls that I knew and we'd "double date", knew his family really well and we spent a lot of time with each other, even when I had a boyfriend. Then one day he confessed his feelings...it made our relationship very awkward after that.
As for the "getting drunk" comments...it's ONE bottle of wine....lol
When my husband and I get a bottle of wine at dinner we are hardly drunk...lol. It's roughly 2 glasses per person.
I suspect the OP's view of how things are, are completely skewed which is why just about everything he's saying doesn't add up/make sense.
The OP sounds like a female friend of my husband. Her idea of what an opposite sex friendship should be is completely skewed... especially when it came to my husband when we were in a committed relationship.
I understand what you mean, but you can't just throw the possibility of her boyfriend's feelings out like that. And you have another variable, you don't know what her relationship is like, for all we know she could just be using both of them. Why would you even want to be with a person like that, if she will step out on him what makes you think she won't do the same to you?
Why put yourself in a position like that? Whether someone is happy or not in relationship you should still respect that boundary and not move in someone who is currently committed. That is extremely disrespectful and inconsiderate. I understand you want to be happy but taking someone else s happiness away from them is not the way to go about doing it. Find your own. If that person is unhappy at least give them a chance to end that relationship before you make a move on anything. Because in this situation you are just setting yourself up to be used. Why would you even allow yourself to develop feelings for someone in a relationship anyway? That never works out.
Two of my husbands female friends acted this why while we were in a committed relationship. I had to put my foot down regarding that.
I understand that people get lonely, but destroying someone else s happiness is not the answer.
As for the "getting drunk" comments...it's ONE bottle of wine....lol
When my husband and I get a bottle of wine at dinner we are hardly drunk...lol. It's roughly 2 glasses per person.
Seroiusly, me and my girlfriend drink that much on almost a daily basis lol.
I wouldn't date a girl who's out late with some guy friend drinking.. but either way I still think that the OP is misreading everything. Sounds more like a lovesick boy and a naive girl than a girl trying to seduce her friend.
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