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I do think there are more women who don't get approached then are accounted for. They don't post online.
It doesn't help that there's many female posters here who regale stories of being approached by 100s of men in their heyday and having their choice of dates from all types of high powered professionals.
As usual, the truth is somewhere in between.
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Originally Posted by TJenkins602
I'm with you, I haven't seen any posts where a woman claims that she is or was being approached frequently "in her hey day."
I'm pretty sure I recall at least one post where a woman complained about the nature of the approach. (Disrespectful, lack of regard for boundaries, etc.) My memory is very vague about this though.
I'm pretty sure he's talking about me. He hates me and has me on ignore. I did used to get hit on all the time. I don't refer it to my "hey day" or anything. I was living in the city and working in a position where I interacted with a lot of people. But I don't really know what that has to do with anything… I mean - I'm not sure why that matters or what that has to do with this thread at all… Oh well.
I'm with you, I haven't seen any posts where a woman claims that she is or was being approached frequently "in her hey day."
I'm pretty sure I recall at least one post where a woman complained about the nature of the approach. (Disrespectful, lack of regard for boundaries, etc.) My memory is very vague about this though.
You don't recall any posts about female posters saying they used to get approached frequently when/as they were single?
Three or more of them have already posted on this very thread.
If it does happen, it doesn't happen anywhere near the frequency men are told this. I could also imagine most of this would be coming from men who tend to lose out in the dating game either way. From what I've observed, most women sympathize with a woman who has a hard time finding a man who passes her checklist of requirements and go out of their way to encourage them.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Wrong again. But somehow, I doubt you care. Oh well. :/
I don't think so. The vast majority of women will always have some men chasing after them, regardless of their relative attractiveness. Even the user she mentioned has said she has strict preferences that she refuses to waver on. That's fine, but it further demonstrates the fact.
You never hear people telling women to lower their standards when she can't find her perfect man with the perfect looks, career, education, etc.? No, instead she receives a pity party and comforted by being told she just needs to wait a little longer and he's just "around the corner". While a man is easily put in his place and repeatedly told to lower his standards if he complains about not finding the perfect woman.
The equivalence in the issue is that certain women may have trouble attracting the men they want (attractive men), while certain men will have an insurmountable time attracting any woman. However, such women are always free to lower their standards as there will always be men pursuing them. The same is not true for the latter group.
I actually was not completely disagreeing with this.
What I was saying is that some women get approached much less.
I do think some women get approached none. But it's rarer. I think the major beef is that certain guys just do not get attention from any women. So, they have to stick their neck out 100% of the time.
But you know, whatever. It's just how the game is.
On the females getting the shaft side, here is what I have seen.
I have seen women who might be average or below dating guys who aren't that into them. And those guys hit on their hotter female friends while they are going out with them.
I have seen that a SH*TLOAD. I've seen it a lot. Guys are really sleazy.
But those women usually have a chance to go out with guys who wouldn't do that to them and pass. See it all the time.
I actually was not completely disagreeing with this.
What I was saying is that some women get approached much less.
I do think some women get approached none. But it's rarer. I think the major beef is that certain guys just do not get attention from any women. So, they have to stick their neck out 100% of the time.
I don't think there's anything we disagree on. It was more of a misinterpretation on my part.
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But you know, whatever. It's just how the game is.
If you were a woman, the misogynists would stand out more to you.
I think there's a tendency for women here to overuse the word "misogynist." Just because a guy doesn't think women are "sugar and spice and everything nice", doesn't mean he hates women. Lots of us get our views about the dating world from objective observations we've made, and we don't see any point of sugarcoating these realities.
I do appreciate the women in this forum who try to get us men to have more optimistic views of the dating world, but those of us who are analytical realists just don't buy into the tripe.
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So last I heard, she's planning to go back to school, I think.
