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a. you may not be bringing much to the relationship that a man wants. (e.g. you attract them initially with looks but over time don't connect with them emotionally with your personality.)
b. you may be habitually picking the wrong men, (e.g., men who have tons of options, and thus little reason to commit), or you may be vetting them poorly (e.g., assuming that their idea of a relationship is the same as yours.)
I've been told by guys that they can't connect with me, but otherwise they do enjoy hanging out. I don't understand that.
Also, I tell everyone that I date, that I am looking for a ltr. Bc if things go well and I end up having feelings for the guy/girl, I don't want to get hurt if they're looking for something casual.
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I've been told by guys that they can't connect with me, but otherwise they do enjoy hanging out. I don't understand that.
It happens. Sometimes I like hanging out with people and just a connection doesn't come. Sometimes it is chemistry, other times it is because they just aren't that warm/affectionate.
or perhaps...the guys that would treat you right and be nice to you, are the exact same guys that you choose to ignore, because they tend to be "boring" and "safe". That would be a pretty common situation.
or perhaps...the guys that would treat you right and be nice to you, are the exact same guys that you choose to ignore, because they tend to be "boring" and "safe". That would be a pretty common situation.
I usual go for the so called boring guys. I tend to be attracted to the intellectual, introverted types. These guys are usually the type that my friends would pass up, but I am low key, so I really don't fit well with the guys that are "cool"
Maybe you don't show enough vulnerabilities? That seems to be a common problem these days among women (probably always has been for men). It also helps explain how messed-up women often easily attract men. Other possibilities are not doing enough energetic joint activities, such as attending rock concerts or playing pranks.
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