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I already know the answer, but still thought I would run it up the flagpole.
I have dated my 47 year old gf for almost 15 months. She is a bright girl but never finished college and because of that her income earning prospects are rather dim and she has trouble finding stable work at a decent wage. It also doesn't help that she is a recovering alcoholic. Not an extreme drunk, but she is fairly neurotic and I'm sure that's a reason she can't get stable work. I'm sure she grates on people's nerves.
She wants to go back to finish college and will get the full amount of government aid and student loans available, which will be about $18,000 dollars a year. But she needs more to live on and wants me to cosign on a private loan.
Her parents are divorced, her mother has nothing. Her father sounds like he does okay and her unmarried sister is a doctor. She doesn't think they will cosign for her and she has been pressuring me to cosign for her.
I told her no, but I would think about it. I'm leaning against it but she is still giving me a guilt trip. I want her to do well in life, but I don't want to be stuck staring at an endless money pit either.
I can afford to eat $10,000, but I'm not a charity.
Comments?
P.S. Because she is a bit neurotic and I am a smartass, our relationship has been a bit tumultuous. I always tell her that if she could string more than two days in a row of being nice, I would have a heart attack. Definitely some anger management problems.
Last edited by StutteringJohn; 04-29-2014 at 12:12 PM..
I already know the answer, but still thought I would run it up the flagpole.
I have dated my 47 year old gf for almost 15 months. She is a bright girl but never finished college and because of that her income earning prospects are rather dim and she has trouble finding stable work at a decent wage. It also doesn't help that she is a recovering alcoholic. Not an extreme drunk, but she is fairly neurotic and I'm sure that's a reason she can't get stable work. I'm sure she grates on people's nerves.
She will get the full amount of government aid and student loans available, which will be about $18,000 dollars a year, but needs more to live on and wants me to cosign on a private loan.
Her parents are divorced, her mother has nothing. Her father sounds like he does okay and her unmarried sister is a doctor. She doesn't think they will cosign for her and she has been pressuring me to cosign for her.
I told her no, but I would think about it. I'm leaning against it but she is still giving me a guilt trip. I want her to do well in life, but I don't want to be stuck staring at an endless money pit either.
I can afford to eat $10,000, but I'm not a charity.
Comments?
P.S. Because she is a bit neurotic and I am a smartass, our relationship has been a bit tumultuous. I always tell her that if she could string more than two days in a row of being nice, I would have a heart attack. Definitely some anger management problems.
Given the level of neuroticism and passive-aggressive behavior on both your parts indicates to me your relationship isn't very stable.
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Finance employee here: NO! NO! HELL NO!
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