What Was I Thinking Marrying a Friend/Widower??? (wife, married, man)
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I've been married for a year to a man I've known since we were kids!!! I was friends with his wife, too, who died 3 years ago. He's retired now and we travel a lot, but I just don't feel the romantic love that I've felt for other men. I feel like we are buddies! The truth is I love him as a friend and feel sorry for him, but I'm not attracted to him physically or sexually. I miss my old life and I wish we had stayed friends. He really tries to make me happy (bought me a Porsche 911 as a wedding gift), but he is still feeling grief and guilt over his wife's death. I feel like I am acting out a role as his wife and nothing more. So maybe friendship is enough? I've even kept my maiden name. I think I made a mistake marrying him. I'm not sure what to do!!! Talk to him about it? Or, give it more time?
BTW, who says all marriages have to be passionate and sexual? Nothing wrong with marrying a "buddy" if you're both mature and don't want kids.
Without knowing much about your situation, if he is nice enough to be your buddy and he also bought you a Porsche ... I say KEEP HIM!!! (Find yourself a boy toy on the side, but oh!, be discreet!!!!!
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