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You have no right or a reason to the pull the self righteous card. You are no better than that other guy, and we are not even talking about him. Your actions are hurting her as well, and what is worse is that you are trying to justify it. Let her go, please. So she can find someone decent and get the happy ending she deserves.
What?!
I know my actions are probably hurting her but she also got into this on her own free will.
Figuratively Putting your fingers in your ears and going LALALALALALA to something you don't know how, or like to deal with isn't being "ok" with them.
It's telling you something is fundamentally wrong with with your process.
Sounds like you are taking advantage of her perhaps low self esteem and vulnerability due to what she went through as a child. She needs stability and normalcy and you are just compounding the issues she may still have from those experiences and previous relationship. You don't need to be in this particular woman life with that life style. She needs to me in a relationship that's emotionally healthy for her and I just don't see how this is good for her. To go by the rules you lay out and to be the weekend love affair is so not right for her. Not judging your life style but you should leave her alone and find a more suitable person that best fit with your needs.
All people in this world are really looking for the same thing including you and that's love except for many as they grow up get messed up along the way and broken so they will confuse the love we all need with other things like money, sex, food, religion, etc. So they try to fill that emptiness they feel inside (it's called running on empty) with these other things but it's only a very momentary fix for them because it's not what they really need and no matter how much they have it can never be enough. I'm sure you have heard the expression looking for love in all the wrong places before. The girl your "using" that was sexually molested odds are that the only time she was ever touched growing up is when she was being molested so she will confuse sex with love because that's the closest she has ever come. Love has to be shown and taught growing up to know what it is just like violence and meanness have to be taught. No baby is born mean it's a learned behavior and so is love. You don't sound like someone that has any idea of what love really is either other wise you would be aware that having sex with someone you love is a totally different kind of experience that there aren't words to explain how it really feels unless experienced. That's when sex becomes more than just sex like it is with you which
lowers you down to the level of nothing more than a animal instead of a human being. I've never known a man that was any good in bed either that is with a lot of women because it takes being with one women they really care about to learn how. Also when you sleep with someone your also sleeping with everyone they have been with too and opening yourself up to diseases. You should think about investing in the buying of a robot for yourself that way you wouldn't have to deal with human beings that have feelings and can be hurt by someone like yourself.
Dont involve your child with women you are just sleeping with and vice versa.
You dont want to hurt her by bringing it up.. but you hurt women when you take a sex only relationship and then make it have real relationship qualities, such as spending the weekend together, having meals together, having her stay over, taking care of your kid and doing chores. You need to address it with her and set her free if it bothers her so that she can move forward and find something that doesnt make her cry
There are women out there, as you know, that will sleep with you and leave but there is no woman that should be expected to be your girlfriend and be ok with you sleeping around. and that is what she is based on what you are describing as your relationship.
You are being very selfish in the involving of children... children require a routine stable home life environment a breakfast, lunch, dinner, nap, bedtime everyday at the same time to grow up stable and to feel secure. Not some fly by night guy that only cares about his own needs, wants and that it's his way or no way. What your doing might be fine if it just involved you but it doesn't you have to drag a innocent child into it and get him to care about you with who's mother you have no intentions of ever having a real relationship with so it's just a matter of time and you will be moving on leaving that child hurt and even more confused. You don't have that right to hurt a child like that. It's bad enough that the only two days a week you see your own child isn't really spent with him at all but at some other womens home trying to get them to sleep with you. Kids learn by example and your setting one **** poor example of what a real father is. Your so wrapped up in yourself and what you want that you can't even see how your affecting the lifes of others. Your life style might be fine for you but keep children out of it that don't have a choice.
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