Living with your partners tattoo of his ex's name (girls, family, children)

[beachie123]

so if someone would not be comfortable with or would not like it if their SO had an ex's name tattooed on their body is jealous and insecure, that must mean that someone who is OK with it is automatically a confident and strong person?

[beautifulblueskies]

Originally Posted by jsun556

Dealbreaker.

Anywhere.

Agree, without a doubt. He'd have to cover it or remove it.

I don't care if a guy has a past, but I'd rather not be with a guy who brands himself with that past. Not cool.

[cindersslipper]

I had a friend who fell in love and ended up moving in with the douche.

The first time I visited I noticed a dead rose hanging by the front door.

What is with the dead rose? Said I.

His ex gave it to him says she.

That rose would be gone by the time he got home that evening, if it was me.

Not so my friend, whose adoration for this douche led in to a very ugly custody battle a couple of years later.

I can't help thinking that if she'd started the relationship by ripping down that rose on DAY ONE, she would've had more power in the relationship than she ended up having, which was zero.

From Day One he made her feel like he was doing her a favour by allowing her to share his bed.

Please.

[beautifulblueskies]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

well, to me, a lost love or old love is like a military memorial tattoo. ...the new woman shouldn't be that jealous or insecure or whichever word should be used here.

It's not about insecurity, it's just pure tackiness and most people I'm sure simply just don't want to look at another person's name branded on their partner all the time. It's unattractive and is always a reminder of the past since it is branded on the person. There are appropriate times to talk about the past, most secure people are fine with that, but every time a person snuggles with or looks at their partner, there's a reminder of the past and personally I like to look at the future...it's like why would you want to constantly remind your new partner of your old one? Why would you even want someone else's name on you? It's pretty lame IMO.

PS. I've known people with ex's names tatted on them and they immediately removed or covered them after the relationship ended, because they didn't personally want to be reminded of their ex's every minute of the day, so why would their new partner want to keep seeing the ex's name? lol

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by beautifulblueskies

It's not about insecurity, it's just pure tackiness and most people I'm sure simply just don't want to look at another person's name branded on their partner all the time. It's unattractive and is always a reminder of the past since it is branded on the person. There are appropriate times to talk about the past, most secure people are fine with that, but every time a person snuggles with or looks at their partner, there's a reminder of the past and personally I like to look at the future...it's like why would you want to constantly remind your new partner of your old one? Why would you even want someone else's name on you? It's pretty lame IMO.

PS. I've known people with ex's names tatted on them and they immediately removed or covered them after the relationship ended, because they didn't personally want to be reminded of their ex's every minute of the day, so why would their new partner want to keep seeing the ex's name? lol

Who the heck knows?

I am just saying laser the tattoo off is painful. Maybe those people are just afraid of pain, who knows? LOL

My ex has my name on his back, he needs to do the explanations, Not me. shrug not my problem

[HV_Mom]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

LOL Or just say "Oh, Colleen is an old dog I loved and passed away." Problem solved hehehehe

Sounds good, but if she is marrying the guy she probably knows what the ex's name is (especially if they have children together). It's not like that is a name with a lot of nickname options.

Personally, I would vote for covering it up somehow. Yes, everyone has a past, but that seems like you're just rubbing it in. Also some might wonder, at what point do I rate that honor, although personally I would rather not have someone tattoo my name on them.

I know a girl who once told me her Dad has 2-3 women's names tattooed on him and none of them ended up being the one he married or had kids with. As far as I know they are still together so I guess she got over. Not sure if he ever added her name to the collection.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by HV_Mom

Sounds good, but if she is marrying the guy she probably knows what the ex's name is (especially if they have children together). It's not like that is a name with a lot of nickname options.

Personally, I would vote for covering it up somehow. Yes, everyone has a past, but that seems like you're just rubbing it in. Also some might wonder, at what point do I rate that honor, although personally I would rather not have someone tattoo my name on them.

I know a girl who once told me her Dad has 2-3 women's names tattooed on him and none of them ended up being the one he married or had kids with. As far as I know they are still together so I guess she got over. Not sure if he ever added her name to the collection.

Yeah covering it up sounds like a good idea.

Personally, I just think tattoo out of impulse is a bad idea period. Laser tattoo removal is really painful.

My ex is a very conservative guy, I guess tattooing my name on his back is his "crazy" way to show love and devotion. I asked him about it and he said he regretted of that tattoo every single day Lol so the so called love between us is really not a very big deal. To his new woman, our past is just too much for her to get over with. LOL No matter how many times he tried to explain to her that I moved on a long time ago and he loves her, not me, she just refuses to believe him. lol

Edit: Honestly, for a girl who never thought about getting married and having children with him, he perhaps should have never even entertained the thought of making me a permanent part of his life. I didn't lead him on, so not my problem. :P

[lastwomanstanding]

I think it's got to go, find the the money however it needs to be found. on the other hand, if this is all she has to complain about, she should consider herself VERY lucky and maybe consider letting it go. Depends on many factors. I wouldn't want to see that but everyone puts up with different things.

[cindersslipper]

Personally I'd be wary of a man who would do that in the first place.

It shows a lack of foresight, if nothing else.

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by funymann

A TATTOO? That is so permanent!!!!

No its not. You can have them removed.