Living with your partners tattoo of his ex's name (marry, man, hubby)

[Kch84]

Originally Posted by oh-eve

I like tattoos.

But I don't think I would choose a guy who feels the need to tattoo somebody's name on him.

Children/parents/pets names = borderline acceptable
wife/gf = that's just stupid.

I agree wholeheartedly. I like tattoos myself and almost got one a few years ago, but never got to it and it just passed. But the tattoo on a guy should be easily coverable even by a tee shirt ( if you can see some ink that's ok) but not in full view all the time. JMHO

[jaypee]

Just add on some additional words to the tattoo:

"Colleen, that b-tch!"
"Colleen sucks"
"Colleen's Ex"

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by jaypee

Just add on some additional words to the tattoo:

"Colleen, that b-tch!"
"Colleen sucks"
"Colleen's Ex"

Colleen's Ex is my favorite!

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981

My ex tattooed my name on his back. I suspect he perhaps has a lot of explanation to do. Poor guy.

I've never dated a heavily tattooed man, but I have dated a beautiful man with a small barb wire tattoo around his toned muscled arm.. (Gorgeous)

Personally, tattoos don't bother me. I used to have a small upside down cross and pentagram tattooed on my finger, and was forced to laser it off by my mom. Hindsight being 20/20 I think my mom was absolutely right. I made a decision out of pure impulse, and I shouldn't be living with my stupidity for the rest of my life. I remember what my brother told me on that day he took me to the laser center, "Do you even know what that symbol means? If you want to be a bad ass, make some changes in your life and becoming somebody. Otherwise, you will forever just be this immature drama queen."

My brother has a memorial tattoo on his back, (He lost somebody in the Military service) I don't think girls had any problems with that. It tells his story, it is also part of who he really is.

So I guess even if a person tattooed his or her lover's name on his or her body, that is part of the history cannot be denied. Just like military memorial tattoos I guess. Why punishing somebody for being in love?

Well, everybody can give a politically correct answer because not everybody is forced to face a certain situation. I guess if a person is very bothered by this issue, a good open honest conversation should be the first step.

According to my own personal experience, laser for tattoo removal is 100 times more painful than tattooing, especially on my finger. It took 3-4 times to remove it completely. I never want to go through that again.

I don't believe a name tattoo should cause somebody's uncontrollable jealousy though.

I'm with you on that for sure

[beachie123]

Originally Posted by jaypee

"Colleen's Ex"

now that's funny!

[cindersslipper]

Originally Posted by dave nz

No its not. You can have them removed.

A fallacy.

Yes, you can, but the cost, time and pain involved prohibit most people from going there.

You need many many laser sessions which hurt worse than the tattoo itself, and have varying results. Some can NEVER be completely eradicated. A lot of the hollywood stars you see use body makeup to hide the scarring.

This is why MOST people with specific tattoo regret find it easier (cheaper) to tattoo over it.

There is also now white tattooing which can be helpful in the coverup.

[midwest61021]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

This came up in conversation with one of my sons recently.

He has a good friend who has a very large tattoo of his wife's name - "Colleen" - on his neck.

He is now divorcing and lacks the funds to have the tat removed, plus he really likes it.

I'm just wondering how his next SO is going to feel about having to live with that tattoo.

Then I read this letter to Dear Abby and it seems to confirm that this could be an issue for a lot of people.

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. We live together, and his child from another woman lives with us. I love my boyfriend and his child, but one thing prevents me from imagining us being married: He has his child's mother's name tattooed on his body.

The tattoo bothers me for many reasons, and I'd like him to have it covered up if we ever do marry. He says he doesn't want to get rid of it. When the topic comes up, we argue.

Am I unreasonable for wanting him to get rid of the tattoo? If that woman really is in his past, why does he need a constant reminder of her on his body? -- IN A STINK OVER INK

How would YOU handle a situation like this?

The ONLY names I would ever condone being tatted on a SO would have to be a family member, simple as that. An ex would be a deal breaker for me.

[hooplaman]

They are still people out there stupid enough to do this?

[midwest61021]

Originally Posted by hooplaman

They are still people out there stupid enough to do this?

Yep, I work with stupid people who do this all the time and think it's cool.

[MoonBeam33]

He should just get it covered up.

Neck tattoos, name tattoos are just a bad idea all around. A relative of mine is a tattoo artist and he won't do names unless it's your kid. I agree with him.

"Representative" tattoos are great - a flower, a heart, a bird, whatever, to represent someone, but NO names.

I LOVE tattoos and have some myself, but only in places that are easily covered.