Living with your partners tattoo of his ex's name

[oh-eve]

Originally Posted by Kesha30

I’ve been dating this guy for about two years now I’ve Brong up the issue about these two different women that he has on his chest I asked him will he get it removed or covered up he said no because they are sentimental values meaning he been through a lot with these women and he still basically care for them so he will not get it covered it I’m confused

I would brong it up again to have your name added to the collection on his chest.

[Abbyj02]

Long story short.. I started talking to this guy 3 years ago and we dated for almost a year and cheated on me with his ex and then he leaves me for his ex and gets a tattoo of her name on his bicep they stayed together for a year and broke up, they’ve been broken up for 2 years and me and him have been back together for a year and I’ve asked him multiple times to cover the tattoo up and he tells me it doesn’t bother him that it’s there and means nothing to him but always argues with me when I ask him to cover it and when he is supposed to cover it he blows it off because he’s tired or wants to hang with his friends and calls me insecure when I get upset about it but it’s a constant reminder to me of him leaving me for her and wanting her enough to get her name permanently on him and calls me nuts and psycho for finally getting mad over it.. am I wrong for being mad?

[Formerly Known As Twenty]

Originally Posted by Abbyj02

Long story short.. I started talking to this guy 3 years ago and we dated for almost a year and cheated on me with his ex and then he leaves me for his ex and gets a tattoo of her name on his bicep they stayed together for a year and broke up, they’ve been broken up for 2 years and me and him have been back together for a year and I’ve asked him multiple times to cover the tattoo up and he tells me it doesn’t bother him that it’s there and means nothing to him but always argues with me when I ask him to cover it and when he is supposed to cover it he blows it off because he’s tired or wants to hang with his friends and calls me insecure when I get upset about it but it’s a constant reminder to me of him leaving me for her and wanting her enough to get her name permanently on him and calls me nuts and psycho for finally getting mad over it.. am I wrong for being mad?

No, you were wrong to get back together with each other. It doesn't sound like this is a match that was/is meant to be, IMO.

[oregonwoodsmoke]

He told her he would love her forever. They would be together forever and he got a permanent tattoo that is going to be forever, to show his devotion will last forever.


So, when he tells me he will love me forever, how long is forever to him? A couple of years? Six months? Or is he just lying about loving me forever in order to get something he wants?



That particular example wouldn't be an issue for me because a neck tattoo is an automatic disqualification for bad personal judgement. I don't want to get stuck taking care of a guy who doesn't have a lick of sense.

[metamorphosis]

I’m confused.

There is a tattoo. And it’s visible almost always. And it is the name of an ex.

At what point does a person suddenly realize that they don’t like the other person’s tattoo? And why waste time & energy arguing about it?

[E-Twist]

My uncle had the name of his ex-wife in a heart on his forearm. He absolutely detested her. I think he never had the spare money to cover it up. He paid child support. He had a new wife that was pregnant when they met and they had several more children later. I think he had other, more important priorities, like food, shelter, and children.

It seems logical to me to cover up an old tattoo with an exes name, especially if a person is getting additional ones done. But maybe the person is so irrelevant to them now that the name just doesn't bother them.
Wait and when the bf is old enough it's just going to turn into an ugly, unrecognizable blob on his skin.