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Old 04-30-2014, 11:25 AM
 
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My parents divorce was a long, painful process that included constant fighting, backstabbing and cheating. I didn't know people could be that miserable just by staying with someone else. My mother will be suffering the consequences of that guy's actions to her last day.

I decided to stay single forever when I was a teen and things between my parents started to deteriorate more and more.

I haven't ever been on a date and don't plan to do so.

I admire my brother for having a girlfriend even after what he has witnessed, I hope things go well for him but I doubt it.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:29 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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My parents divorce was a long, painful process that included constant fighting, backstabbing and cheating. I didn't know people could be that miserable just by staying with someone else. My mother will be suffering the consequences of that guy's actions to her last day.

I decided to stay single forever when I was a teen and things between my parents started to deteriorate more and more.

I haven't ever been on a date and don't plan to do so.

I admire my brother for having a girlfriend even after what he has witnessed, I hope things go well for him but I doubt it.
I grew up surrounded by my family members getting divorced. My aunt was married 4 times, all ended in divorce. My mom was married 2 times, all ended in divorce. My uncles were married and they divorced. I witnessed this and when I am reminded of it, it makes me think "If their marriages failed, my relationships will probably fail someday as well." Staying single avoids all that pain. Do what you have to do, even if it means staying on your own forever.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:31 AM
 
Location: Spokane, WA
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Serious question; Do you do the opposite of everything your parents did wrong?
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:32 AM
 
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If you plan on following in their footsteps in regards to having the same type of dynamics in your marriage it is probably best you stay single.
If you choose to have an actual relationship based on what you have seen with your parents and not do what they did you have a chance of staying married.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:33 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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My dad's parents had a horrible marriage. My dad had a wonderful marriage. He chose to be different from his parents. My dad's dad was a horrible dad. My dad was a wonderful dad.

Your life, your choices.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:34 AM
 
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Serious question; Do you do the opposite of everything your parents did wrong?
I don't know, I would have to be in the same circunstances and I've never been together with anyone.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:35 AM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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Your life, your choices.
^^^ This.


It's your life, you can either learn from the negative things and learn how to change them, or take other options such as never putting yourself in a situation.

At the end of the day, you are in control of what direction your life takes.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:36 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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My parents divorce was a long, painful process that included constant fighting, backstabbing and cheating. I didn't know people could be that miserable just by staying with someone else. My mother will be suffering the consequences of that guy's actions to her last day.

I decided to stay single forever when I was a teen and things between my parents started to deteriorate more and more.

I haven't ever been on a date and don't plan to do so.

I admire my brother for having a girlfriend even after what he has witnessed, I hope things go well for him but I doubt it.
No, it's not a good reason to stay single. It IS a good reason to get therapy, though. Don't allow your parents to have such a big negative influence on your life.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:38 AM
 
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Your life, your choices.
Still, a single step can ruin your life forever. My mother is divorced but like I said, will always suffer the consequences. She'll never get those years back.
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Old 04-30-2014, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Still, a single step can ruin your life forever. My mother is divorced but like I said, will always suffer the consequences. She'll never get those years back.
Getting married to the wrong person is not a "single step."
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