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You both are making different life choices, that's ok. Just because he's not choosing the same path you took doesn't mean he's not happy.
I think he's smart to be true to himself and not give in to the pressure it sounds like you're putting on him. I'm sure you probably don't even realize that this can be insulting and may eventually push him away.
Try and see from your heart and love him, there is no law that saying one has to marry and have kids.
I have a theory on those one post posters... but I can't actually say in on the forum... it is considered calling someone a troll and that is a no no. So I won't. It makes sense financially.
I'll tellya. It's getting to be that I don't trust anyone with fewer than 300 posts or an account less than six months old.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
That is as bad as a parent telling their child to have a baby because they want to be grandparents.
Stay out of his life and quit bringing it up, his life, his choice, none of your business.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
Whats sad about this is I think he actually means it this time. When we were in our early 20s i would ignore his comments thinking it was merely a phase in his life. He's 39 now. He has a great career, makes more than probably me and my husband combined, owns his own condo and for the most part women seem to take a like in him. So..I dont get the problem.
Within our circle of friends most of us have already had atleast 1 child. But this man absolutely refuses to be involved in a serious relationship and that kinda bothers me as his sister. I would really love to be an aunt and have my child play and be among cousins like we were in growing up.
When I spoke to him last night, he told me its something he has never wanted ever in his life, that he was quite happy living alone and that although he's met plenty of nice women, he doesnt want any type of contractual or serious agreement with anyone.That he doesnt have the energy or interest to chase women around. He's perfectly happy with dating but keeping a separate life is and always will be important to him.
While I'm sure you have the best intentions at heart, but the bolded part a lot of people could/would find a little annoying, verging on offending.
You being an aunt and having your children play together shouldn't be a basis of why he should be married with kids.
If the guy seems to be happy, leave him alone and be happy for him.
Not everyone is designed or cutout to be married and have children, matter of fact, I think more people should probably have given it a think over before plunging into raising children.
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especially somebody sound so familiar haha
