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..... What is hurting me right now, is that my husband, who is my best friend, knew about the affair for a week and never told me. I trust my husband but I don't understand why he didn't tell me. I thought we told each other everything. Do I just let it go that he didn't tell me, or do I have a right to feel hurt?
I guess I don't know why you're hurt - you're not the one being cheated on. What would you have done if he had told you??
You have no right to be hurt...let your husband have is secrets with his friends. It's not like he cheated on you. Sounds like there are trust issues on your end. Insecure? This thread doesn't **** me off, but it reminds me of the little immature girl I dated recently who would get mad over silly stuff like this. Honestly, you had no right to know, and should feel privelaged to have even found out. Now that you are in the know, congrats on knowing a terrible secret and not being able to do anything about except make your relationship potentially worse. I kind of feel bad for your husband and wonder what else you get mad over.
Your husband may have been uncomfortable with this info and needed sometime to just kinda process it and then shared it with you. I not sure, but I could see myself not saying anything to my husband right away, just because it is brain numing news. It does not mean he is holding something back from you, but rather a lil shell shocked at bf's biz. I personally do not care if one of our friends cheat, simply not our business and I don't want it to become my biz or my problem. They'll figure it out on their own, it's their realtionship. I figure my life is busy enough that I wouldn't even entertain trying to anaylze it or solve some elses life. They are all adults.
I found that my husbands best friend had an affair on his wife. This is a couple that we spend A LOT of time with. What is hurting me right now, is that my husband, who is my best friend, knew about the affair for a week and never told me. I trust my husband but I don't understand why he didn't tell me. I thought we told each other everything. Do I just let it go that he didn't tell me, or do I have a right to feel hurt?
NO DARLIN, we don't tell each other everything....men, just don't do that...yanno? Don't feel bad, or that your relationship is not what you thought it was....be happy...it's Christmas, put this on the back burner and let him and his friend work it out....allow him some space....don't get on him about this...we don't have to share everything, honest...it's ok...and yes, it's ok to feel hurt, but not to the point that it's going to corrode your feelings for him or towards him....EVERYBODY needs secrets and their own space...
You have no right to be hurt...let your husband have is secrets with his friends. It's not like he cheated on you. Sounds like there are trust issues on your end. Insecure? This thread doesn't **** me off, but it reminds me of the little immature girl I dated recently who would get mad over silly stuff like this. Honestly, you had no right to know, and should feel privelaged to have even found out. Now that you are in the know, congrats on knowing a terrible secret and not being able to do anything about except make your relationship potentially worse. I kind of feel bad for your husband and wonder what else you get mad over.
Kind of harsh, but in reality, completely accurate.
I don't think you should be hurt. It's not something that should be spread around. He (the cheater) will eventually get whats coming to him. I'm all for minding my own business in situations like this.
Last edited by MonaLisaVito; 12-12-2007 at 04:07 PM..
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Kind of harsh, but in reality, completely accurate.
That's how I am...I didn't feel the need to sugarcoat my post this time. If someone doesn't tell her now, she will be making a post about how her husband left her because all he did was argue(when it was her instigating).
Been there done that. Hope I am wrong.
I found that my husbands best friend had an affair on his wife. This is a couple that we spend A LOT of time with. What is hurting me right now, is that my husband, who is my best friend, knew about the affair for a week and never told me. I trust my husband but I don't understand why he didn't tell me. I thought we told each other everything. Do I just let it go that he didn't tell me, or do I have a right to feel hurt?
It could be that your friend told your husband in confidense. If that's the case, he shouldn't tell anyone, not even his wife.
You need to read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" it will explain this.
Women tend to commiserate and solve one another's problems.
For example- You tell your friend of a problem. She helps you to brainstorm to try to solve it. She speculates with you as to why the problem exists. Lots of maybes and what if's.
Your husband tells his friend of a problem. His friend says "Man, that sucks." Your husband says "Yup, how about those Patriots?"
It's oh so true!
no, no, no, wrong...they say
how bout them Eagles?
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