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I do but people always think they know what's best for you better than you do.
Another reason why you need new friends. Friends don't do that to each other. It's kind of condescending. Lots of people go through HS and college without having a relationship, and no one tells them they're missing out.
Another reason why you need new friends. Friends don't do that to each other. It's kind of condescending. Lots of people go through HS and college without having a relationship, and no one tells them they're missing out.
All friends do that, more or less, but they all do it in one way or another.
All friends do that, more or less, but they all do it in one way or another.
Dude, you posted a thread asking why your friends say you're missing out. Someone actually posts to that topic (instead of what others think your topic really is: your choice not to date), and gives you pretty decent advice, and you blow it off.
So, why did you post your topic? I agree, btw. Your friends sound like jerks and like losers who aren't able to have stable, mature relationships.
Not that you care about my opinion, either.
So should we just delete your thread? I can't figure out why you keep posting if you blow off relevant comments.
Perhaps they start doing it less or none at all as you get older but certainly not when you are my age. I think at this age people need other people going through the same drama, I don't know.
Because you are missing out.
You are activity avoiding situations.
You are doing so out of fear and the mindset that your life will be exsactly like your friends. you're taking all YOUR influence and judgment away (aka control of your life) and just sitting in the corner going "no no no no I don't want that"
A choice is one thing, avoidance based on fear and perception is a total other ball game.
Life is nothing but ups and downs. Even those of us with the best lives possible get hit with the unexpected or unwanted. It's not about avoiding things, it's about growing as an individual who is capable of understanding and dealing with what controls them or holds them back.
A life of fear is a life of complacency
Avoidance is not control.
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Originally Posted by PhaetonEL
I do but people always think they know what's best for you better than you do.
Well, the way you solve that is not giving them a platform to speak in the first place. If they keep on the subject, reduce the amount of time you spend with them.
Well, the way you solve that is not giving them a platform to speak in the first place. If they keep on the subject, reduce the amount of time you spend with them.
Many of them go to the college as I do so it's hard to avoid them. Then I don't feel like I should avoid them, I enjoy their company apart from these topics.
I'm 23 and I decided to stay on my own forever when I was 16. I just lead my life the way I want, go to college, don't bother anyone nor get into other's peoples lives.
However, a few close friends who know this (especially females) say I'm missing out and yet they are always in trouble with their boyfriends/girlfriends. Always arguing and getting mad at each other, breaking up all the time and getting together again. Then we go out together as a group and they should up with a bad face and you know they fighted again and again.
So it's hard to understand what I'm exactly missing out.
Logically, if you've never had it, you're not missing anything. But I know what they mean.
As a mid 40's woman with what feels like 2 lifetimes behind me, I can confidently say that I would have been silly to make a decision like that when I was 16, only because it is limiting. You can live life the way you want even with other people in it. That is the whole purpose of relationships; to connect with others who have similar interests and respect your goals and boundaries. But, if you truly feel no need to connect to others, that's fine too, as long as you are being authentic and not suppressing the need to connect because you're afraid of something.
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