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Usually, it's the whole truth. I guess I was assuming that by "dumped", some measure of a relationship was implied, not just 2 or 3 casual dates. If you have a date or two with someone and can't stand their voice, or the way they eat their peas, or some other mannerism, it's not really a "dump". You just don't call for another date. If they call you, you just say thank you, but you're not interested. That's not dumping someone.
"We're not a good match" usually involves something like finding out they're really spendy and you're not, or you have different goals or values in life, or something more substantive than an annoying habit that irritates you.
Okay, I get where you are coming from now. I can think of a million reasons for a serious relationship can not work out. I Still think letting someone down easy is better.
"I have fallen out of live with you " is preferable to ....I am now banging the hot girl who lives next door.
" I think we have grown apart" is better than...You have cancer and I am a selfish person who can't deal with this.
When you are dealing with someone who is non confrontational by nature, white lies should be expected. Not sure why so many people refuse to understand basic differences between men and women. Trust me, it wont make us less equal.
I have always been upfront with the people I have been involved with. Sometimes it isn't necessary to get in to the details unless provoked or questioned for clarity.
People often already know of the issues themselves and just choose to ignore or put them to the side
I mean how much to you need to be spoon fed what is abundantly apparent?
I can only think of three times I have ever spelled out to another why I had to leave and have them just stand their dumbfounded and bewildered like they just had no clue
I have always been upfront with the people I have been involved with. Sometimes it isn't necessary to get in to the details unless provoked or questioned for clarity.
People often already know of the issues themselves and just choose to ignore or put them to the side
I mean how much to you need to be spoon fed what is abundantly apparent?
I can only think of three times I have ever spelled out to another why I had to leave and have them just stand their dumbfounded and bewildered like they just had no clue
The problem is, some people demand to know why "it's not working out" or "we're not a good match", and then they try to argue with the reasons given. That's why some people make up excuses from the start.
The problem is, some people demand to know why "it's not working out" or "we're not a good match", and then they try to argue with the reasons given. That's why some people make up excuses from the start.
An argument involves two.
Give them what they want and disengage. You can't force people to rationalize, they have to do this on their own.
I try to make things very clear about my self when I meet some one and I remain consistent through out, and I have never changed .
Yet it seems that women don't listen , not the great communicators they propose them selves to be.
They can blab, but can't listen.
Yet I can do business with others ( whom have no ulterior motives) and have no problem.
You're boring.
I found someone else.
You're superficial.
You're lousy at sex.
You were just a fling.
I'm gay.
I found out you......
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