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Like tends to attract like unless one of the partners has exceptional gifts like:
- Sexual prowess
- Wealth
- Humor/Personality
- Physique
- Education or Intelligence
Generally, women don't want men that are "hotter" than they are...at least based on observing couples. They may date someone on their level or a couple of notches below in attractiveness. Most men (I think) are more than willing to at least try and date/marry up in looks.
I've seen a few mismatches in my life. Some I would say happens because of great timing and opportunity. For example they work together, meet thru mutual friends/relatives, go the same school, etc etc. Circumstance means a lot.
I would like to add why shouldn't a pretty girl seek more than an ugly guy? Why shouldn't she at least settle for an average guy with the same qualities? Just because one is ugly doesn't automatically mean that person has great qualities.
Less-than-attractive guys can always just wait it out and let age catch up to the more attractive women, thereby robbing them of one of their main assets and thus reducing their bargaining power in the dating/courtship world. Right or wrong, men seem to generally age better and, presumably, enjoy a longer window of opportunity whereby they can shop for a relatively youngish, attractive partner. I realize this is highly variable and is not always the case, but it seems to work out that way.
Less-than-attractive guys can always just wait it out and let age catch up to the more attractive women, thereby robbing them of one of their main assets and thus reducing their bargaining power in the dating/courtship world. Right or wrong, men seem to generally age better and, presumably, enjoy a longer window of opportunity whereby they can shop for a relatively youngish, attractive partner. I realize this is highly variable and is not always the case, but it seems to work out that way.
ROFLMAO.
signed/47 year old woman
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Less-than-attractive guys can always just wait it out and let age catch up to the more attractive women, thereby robbing them of one of their main assets and thus reducing their bargaining power in the dating/courtship world.
Instead of viewing it such adversarial and resentful terms, why not go for women who have all the good inner qualities men look for? Instead of waiting, dateless, until the 40's or 50's (that's one heck of a long wait, for a social life!), why not re-prioritize, and discover the women who have a big heart?
Instead of viewing it such adversarial and resentful terms, why not go for women who have all the good inner qualities men look for? Instead of waiting, dateless, until the 40's or 50's (that's one heck of a long wait, for a social life!), why not re-prioritize, and discover the women who have a big heart?
I don't disagree with you. My original post was simply looking at things from a purely physical standpoint, specifically involving good-looking women and not-so-good-looking men.
Instead of viewing it such adversarial and resentful terms, why not go for women who have all the good inner qualities men look for? Instead of waiting, dateless, until the 40's or 50's (that's one heck of a long wait, for a social life!), why not re-prioritize, and discover the women who have a big heart?
This This is what I'm trying to work with. Heart, personality and kindness can works a long way than let's say looks which fades due to health and time.
In my entire life, I have never seen an attractive woman with an unattractive man. And I mean never.
Look at JayZ, Donald Trump, Rick Ocasek, Bernie Ecclestone, etc.; there are countless couples where the woman is hot and the guy is not even slightly attractive.
From my observation and experience. It's not pretty women that are shallow. It's the average looking women that are shallow to a greater degree. If. A woman that is a 5 or a 6 in looks what type of guy she is going to go for? Definitely not an average looking guy. Most Most average women I know and even in my family and social network go for really physically attractive guys. Personality, income is not a problem for these women and mainly judge a guy buy the cover of his book before reading. For me I want an average looking woman but I generally get really hot or at times unattractive women. The unattractive women from my experience have nice a heart. Over the years I realized average woman do not want an average man. If an average looking woman is with a very good looking guy it just boost her appearance, ego and self-esteem.
Instead of viewing it such adversarial and resentful terms, why not go for women who have all the good inner qualities men look for? Instead of waiting, dateless, until the 40's or 50's (that's one heck of a long wait, for a social life!), why not re-prioritize, and discover the women who have a big heart?
Go for the starter relationship? That could work, I suppose. However, attraction is only partly a matter of individual choice and priority. To that extent you are entirely correct, that some re-prioritization is possible and often a good idea. On the other hand, it's very difficult - and probably undesirable from any perspective - to act counter to the fundamental biological basis of attraction.
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