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Why not? She'll be okay financially and has kept the good looks for her age.
Why are you still discussing this here?
You should have already found an attorney and started the paperwork process to get the divorce you want so badly.
Why drag it out here and in your real life? There is no reason, you found a new woman, you have it all figured out so just go already and let your wife start the process of grieving for another loss in her life and hopefully move on soon.
Gee, three kids in three years and she was too busy with them?
Still, she made no effort to be with me. Actually, we had a fourth child but she died a few months after she was born. I would say her death marked the end of our marriage. She gave all her attention to our children and no one else.
I received many assets from my father before I got married and we have a prenup. Besides, I've got savings in Switzerland she doesn't know about. She can have her half anytime.
I think, with the smallest amount of assistance from the kindly mods here on City-Data, that this info will soon become available to your wife's attorneys.
Sorry to say, but unless your wife wants it too, it's impossible to leave her in a way where she won't be mad. That's just something you will have to deal with. Plenty of other people who have divorced have dealt with this too so just man up. The thing you need t remember is that you (and probably your wife too) will be a lot healthier and happier after the dust has settled.
(and yes you will lose some of your assets just like everyone else who divorces. deal with that too)
Wow! You sound just like my ex-husband. I wonder if your wife poured all her time & dedication into your children because:
1) You were unavailable physically & emotionally for any of them? She was all they had?
2) You had her sign a prenup which raises suspicion of your love & intent? They were about as common as couples counseling back then.
3) Your constantly reminding her your inheritance is not community property?
4) Your childish anger over not getting all the attention you thought she should pay you over your children? Did you ever notice how exhausted she was at the end of the day?
I was a stay at home mom who lived & breathed for my family. So when my husband kicked me to the curb for a 26 year old version of me after 24 years of marriage, I was devastated!
Then he dragged out the divorce for 9 years! It cost him well over a hundred thousand dollars in my atty & accountant fees. In the end, we agreed on a settlement.
BTW~ Our children, 1 a minor & 2 adults were heart-broken, felt sorrow, helplessness, guilt & more. Their behaviors changed for the worse & one is now deceased. Don't fool yourself into thinking they won't be affected!
I suggest you approach your wife in a straight-forward manner. Tell her you've been unhappy for awhile. Try to be kind, honest & fair.
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