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a byproduct of being a talented male musician is getting *it* thrown at you
we're not even talking pop-rock-rap music either where its usually alot of 'suspect' women groupies trying to make some kind of comeup
I would think in your genre the women might be better quality and less used used
Byproduct???
More like an "at-risk job hazard".
This was in our early 20's so we might as well have been teens.
I should clarify. She didn't drag me into the closet and immediately start begging. We were alone and it started with some innocent kissing which then escalated after several minutes, whereupon she whispered "make love to me". Oh, for just a few gift-horses like that before I kick off...!!
I'm with Ruth. There is no prerogative that a man has to participate. We can feel out of it or picky or not desiring the offering. It gives the opinion we can't be wooed, seduced, taken, or taken seriously. Just as women say no, men should be able to say no. Were the tables switched, the guy would just move on. She has too. And it is many years later. Virtue is still virtue. There is no shame or regret. We often think of the road less traveled. This was a cross-road not taken. Reminds us we are desirable at our lowest, when we are still holding out for the best.
Hi-fives in the hallway, and we continue on our paths.
I used to be a pretty good pianist/composer in my time. And some of my classical music compositions are still on the web to this day.
A memory popped into my head about a girl I liked a lot way back when who liked me, but not as much as I liked her. After a concert I gave of some of my music which was warmly received, and in all the compliments and adulation I was receiving at the reception, her emotions suddenly changed from lukewarm to white-hot when we got alone afterwards, at her insistence I recall. She started begging me to make love to her. At first I thought it was the opportunity of a lifetime and reciprocated with kisses for a few moments, but for some reason I suddenly changed my mind and explained I couldn't do it because I thought she was reacting in the heat of passion over an illusion of me and not because she really liked me enough to want to do it otherwise, and might regret it later.
As I recall she was taken aback, maybe even somewhat insulted, but I do remember she never gave any warmth to me after that night, in fact she acted as if I didn't exist. The relationship crumbled.
If a girl you like wants to "do it" in the heat of the moment do her emotions dictate that if you know what best for your relationship with her you'd better give her what she wants? I know this is a minefield--a girl could hate you later for what she perceives as you taking advantage of her when she's weak, and I realize she was an adult who could make her own decisions. But that's from the outside looking in. When a guy is face-to-face with a volitile situation such as this: take advantage of girl who's in a state of strong passion when he knows it could either be something she'd regret afterwards OR it could be the most powerful romantic experience of her life, what should he do? Advise from the women in this case would be most welcomed.
Yes, do it, ALWAYS (unless you're not attracted to her).
Eh. If you didn't think the interest was legit, I can see why you turned her down. I get that turning down sex for any reason isn't typical of or popular with most guys, but whatever. Live like you wanna live, and if a girl who's into you briefly and due to particular circumstances (you just did something she thought was cool, whoo!), but not likely to be interested in the long run doesn't appeal to you, good for you. At least you know yourself. Understand that most of the male respondents hassling you on this thread are the type that would never turn down sex for any reason, and they don't really get anybody who would. It is what it is.
Out of curiosity, how long ago did all this transpire? If you're still wrapped up in it years later, I don't know what to tell you.
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