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And you made it to an egg while millions of other sperms cells from the same ejaculation ceased to evolve, while you at least were giving the opportunity to live life as a human - although with the possibility of not experience the level and/or type of romantic experiences that you want.
As usual. . . .
Life is not fair.
Embrace that fact and it will lead you on the path you were always meant to travel on.
Sky-O
I only wish the OP was really looking for advice because yours is spot on
Sadly, he is apparently not interested in learning anything here.
Self worth, much like self esteem or self confidence, is a self based concept, meaning derived from within. You choose your self worth based on how you see yourself. If you attempt to derive these self concepts from external things, others, material posessions or a career, you may find yourself in a rough spot when your world crashes down and you become nothing, because you lost all your money, got fired from your job or had your reputation ruined. Its bad juju. The only way to be fully in control of your life, is to place it in your own hands.
No I don't see my sense of worth having to do with women I've had. Its more about my success in the general world. I think perhaps women see it the same way .I am married so I hear it constantly from younger women that they have a standard of equal success ;not some loser as far as partners.
It is hard to feel good about yourself when your life not in order . The only thing i have going for me is I am in college for the 2nd time and I cant fail.
I cant go back to drinking and pooping pills like candy just to make it through another crappy work day with no upward mobility.
I don't know if it's the chicken or egg. When I'm feeling in a darker place, my perception is that everything sucks and even though I've done this, it seems I should have done more. Trying to stay grateful helps.
The desire to feel like I am not a loser drives me.I don't know if that's the healthiest thing to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself. But it definitely helps.
Staying positive helps and working on yourself goes a long ways .
It does suck to see a guy with no goals in life or dreams get a GF and your like WTF .
If you can't attract the women you're attracted to, then how can you not feel like a loser, especially if you have a deep desire for love? You've lost out on an essential human experience because you weren't genetically healthy enough and/or materially successful enough.
Those two things are not necessarily the same thing. You may find 100 women appealing, but not 'Love' material.
It might be necessary to re-evaluate your selection process and what you want. If your goal is to find some physically hot babe then so be it. If your goal is to find someone who will love you and will love in return - what is your criteria for this.
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You need a plan. You aren't a loser because of sex. I'll let you in on a her club secret - it's not sex that ruins it it's self esteem. You also cannot rely on one person to satisfy all your needs.
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It never even occurred to me to have my self worth tied to dating.
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