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Originally Posted by Adhom
Is there an unwritten rule that says if a woman gives such obvious signals such as asking about penis size and hinting at sexual frustration, she must also offer sex? Can she not do these things and still not want sex?
Sure, she can not want to have sex with him and she has no obligation to offer sex.
No one is debating that at all.
But she wants to be offended. That is completely different. The guy did absolutely nothing at all offensive. She flirted, she offered signals, he inquired. There is nothing offensive about that.
I wouldn't be offended. Now, I would love to have sex, so if I had reached the point of wanting casual sex, then I wouldn't mind if a guy offered FWB. But that's the thing. FWB means an actual FRIEND. So, I would expect him to treat him nicely, not be selfish in bed, then ignore me afterward. Otherwise, I am his sex buddy, not a FWB--and that I find degrading. FWB is the most casual I could go for a bit, if I ever do--and I may since dating hasn't been great. But I wouldn't ever do Sex Buddy.
I'm not sure why everyone is so harsh on the OP who's only mistake is not setting clear boundaries. However, she is spot on in her assessment of this friend and she is entitled to being offended. Is there an unwritten rule that says if a woman gives such obvious signals such as asking about penis size and hinting at sexual frustration, she must also offer sex? Can she not do these things and still not want sex?
But she DOES want sex. That's the thing.
But it's as if she doesn't want people to think she's "the kind of girl" who wants it, you know?
She just has to decide what she REALLY wants and be OK with it. Then she won't get offended if a guy makes an incorrect assumption.
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