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I have a Chinese (PRC) female friend. She is very beautiful, sweet, and kind.
In our conversations she has made favorable comparisons between myself and her Father on several occasions. She also asks me almost every week if I have any plans for the weekend.
Is she showing romantic interest? Being friendly? or Does she view me has a father figure?
More information: We are both Christians, Housemates (I know), 20 year age difference, though most people guess I am about seven years younger. I am also divorced with two kids, she adores my 5 year old son.
Help! I do not want her to become uncomfortable, nor I am interested in pursuing a romance, though it would be good for me!
After "Caucasian-ChineseRelationship" you state you have a question, go on to state she's Chinese... but then don't bring up race again. I am not sure what her race has to do with anything else in your post. If she's so sweet and kind I am sure she can understand and handle a frank conversation to clear the air. Your unorhodox living arrangement necessitates that this issue be cleared up now.
In our conversations she has made favorable comparisons between myself and her Father on several occasions. She also asks me almost every week if I have any plans for the weekend.
Is she showing romantic interest? Being friendly? or Does she view me has a father figure?
More information: We are both Christians, Housemates (I know), 20 year age difference, Help! I do not want her to become uncomfortable, nor I am interested in pursuing a romance, though it would be good for me!
The big red flag I see is the 20 year age difference, and that you are housemates. Could become VERY uncomfortable if either of you seeks a romantic relationship with the other, and feelings aren't reciprocated, or even if they are. Would you want to jeopardize your living situation with those complications?
Sounds like she views you favorably and enjoys your company, that could be from shared interests such as housemates, religion, and a "family" feel if she sees you positively as reminding you of her father.
I'd be concerned about an older man taking advantage of a trusting younger woman in this situation, not saying that is your intention, but it seems fraught with that danger...
Comparing you to her dad should be a nice big fat reason for you to not want to date her...
I agree with the other posters. Please be careful? It's just like dating in the workplace, it has the potential to get very uncomfortable very fast for numerous reasons.
Why not take her up on her offer and do something with her this weekend? Go out to a deli for lunch or something... something non-romantic. If she truly enjoys your company, how blessed you are to have a non-threatening and non-demanding companion at your side! If she does want something more intimate, let her be the one to make the move, and go from there... with a 20 year age gap, I would worry. This wouldn't necessarily be something your doing wrong, but perhaps she is young and naive, and is really seeking more of a fatherly figure, and a little upsidedown in her own head if she's drawn to you that way, and just doesn't know it yet.
Just my two cents, with the greatest respect and caution. Not meaning to offend. Let us know how it goes?
It is not so much the race, but the culture that concerns me. If she was Chinese born to American Chinese parents (americanized) I might think that she had a simple crush on me. Perhaps she does, but I do not know enough about her culture background to know.
Race is not a problem for me or my family.
I have a Chinese (PRC) female friend. She is very beautiful, sweet, and kind.
In our conversations she has made favorable comparisons between myself and her Father on several occasions. She also asks me almost every week if I have any plans for the weekend.
Is she showing romantic interest? Being friendly? or Does she view me has a father figure?
More information: We are both Christians, Housemates (I know), 20 year age difference, though most people guess I am about seven years younger. I am also divorced with two kids, she adores my 5 year old son.
Help! I do not want her to become uncomfortable, nor I am interested in pursuing a romance, though it would be good for me!
I'm an American born Chinese woman. I believe that her asking you about your weekend plans is just being conversational and friendly. Many people have the weekends off and have special plans. I'd ask the same question of a co-worker too.
Seeing as how you are not interested in her romantically, I would keep to being an elder in her life, and being more of a surrogate uncle to her than her equal as an adult. As you both are housemates, that would be the wisest course anyway.
Being a surrogate uncle is a good concept. That is something I can wrap my mind around.
She is the only one from her family in the US. I am taking her to the airport this week as she is going back to China for the first time since she came her six years ago.
Her English is nearly perfect. I thought she was from the US.
I have a Chinese (PRC) female friend. She is very beautiful, sweet, and kind.
In our conversations she has made favorable comparisons between myself and her Father on several occasions. She also asks me almost every week if I have any plans for the weekend.
Is she showing romantic interest? Being friendly? or Does she view me has a father figure?
More information: We are both Christians, Housemates (I know), 20 year age difference, though most people guess I am about seven years younger. I am also divorced with two kids, she adores my 5 year old son.
Help! I do not want her to become uncomfortable, nor I am interested in pursuing a romance, though it would be good for me!
I think you are reading too much into it. Sounds like she's just making nice conversation. If you are attracted to her, why not take the initiative and ask her out? If she says no, so what? At least you were open with her and she can't hate you for liking her. if she says yes, then spend some time with her and see where it goes.
Being a surrogate uncle is a good concept. That is something I can wrap my mind around.
She is the only one from her family in the US. I am taking her to the airport this week as she is going back to China for the first time since she came her six years ago.
Her English is nearly perfect. I thought she was from the US.
If the rest of her family is still in China, she could use some surrogate family in the States for friendship and support.
I dated a Chinese woman.
The sex was great.
But a half hour later I was horny again.
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If she does want something more intimate, let her be the one to make the move, and go from there... with a 20 year age gap, I would worry. This wouldn't necessarily be something your doing wrong, but perhaps she is young and naive, and is really seeking more of a fatherly figure, and a little upsidedown in her own head if she's drawn to you that way, and just doesn't know it yet.
