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I think I like this list. Here is how I define it...
1. Emotionally supportive
Yes honest men have feelings too. Please consider them.
2.Treats others well.
Doesn't let bias or favoritism interfere.
3. No qualms with cooking
She doesn't think it is a demeaning sacrifice.
4. No religious or political fanaticism or make me convert
or try and raise the kids a certain way.
Religion is a personal choice and no more.
5. Responsible, has a decent job.
Modern independent women are self-sufficient.
6. Likes sex Verry important to men that it is always agreed and willing,
unless very sick or exhausted.
7. Would be a good mother.
Career and hobbies are second to attending to children.
8. Understands that marriage is a life commitment.
And when times get rough or a new hunk gets hired at work, marriage,
commitment and history together matter utmost.
It's like heaven when they/she does too!! Some guy thanked me for "what I did" and what I sacrificed to help him and others the other night on here. I told him it had been years since anyone said something so genuine and kind to me. I was moved a bit from that. Guys I mean......
The woman who fits my list does it just by doing her "thing"...
I think I like this list. Here is how I define it...
1. Emotionally supportive
Yes honest men have feelings too. Please consider them.
Vague. Let's have some examples of being emotionally unsupportive vs. supportive for wives.
2.Treats others well.
Doesn't let bias or favoritism interfere.
Yes, a decent human being. Same goes for a husband.
3. No qualms with cooking
She doesn't think it is a demeaning sacrifice.
I like to cook,and my husband loves my cooking. But as much as I have no problem with doing so, I did resent having to ask my husband to take out the trash. I'm over it now though. I just do it myself. Goes both ways for these stereotypical roles.
4. No religious or political fanaticism or make me convert
or try and raise the kids a certain way.
Religion is a personal choice and no more.
Okay with this. I'm Catholic; husband is not. No pressure to attend religious services. This is between him and God, not me. But do I wish that he shares my faith at times? Sure, especially now that I see that the kids aren't following because dad doesn't. My fault for not choosing someone with the same faith. But he has many other good qualities so again, between him and God.
5. Responsible, has a decent job.
Modern independent women are self-sufficient.
That's cool, too, as long as you have a decent job, too.
6. Likes sex Verry important to men that it is always agreed and willing,
unless very sick or exhausted.
Yes, men are programmed much more than women to want sex. I like sex. "Always agreed and willing" however, comes perilously close to being a chore if you want it much more than your mate. You don't want that, do you?
7. Would be a good mother.
Career and hobbies are second to attending to children.
There is no way you will know she will be a good mother until she has them. She can quit her "decent job" listed in #5, but if she's not the mothering type, there won't be a darn thing you can do about it, and this isn't revealed in the "checklist" portion prior to marriage. Which reminds me, will your career and hobbies also be second to the children or is that for the wife only?
8. Understands that marriage is a life commitment.
And when times get rough or a new hunk gets hired at work, marriage,
commitment and history together matter utmost.
Ditto for the hot secretary or waitress or any sweeter younger perkier thing you see after I've had your children and can't lose those last few pounds.[/font]
Thing is, the list in and of itself is not unreasonable. It does have an underlying feel of a job application though and would not be in any way romantic if presented to a gal you are interested in pursuing. She would just think you're a cad.
*Apologies in advance for not getting this whole quoting and adding my two cents properly and consistently. Just don't have enough posting experience. Thanks!
I would add that she understands you are the man of the house and sole head of the house .
Nothing worse than a woman who can't cook, or respect male authority.
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