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This dude is a tool. "I'm so smart, pretty much all women are beneath me and not worthy of my time". Yeah, whatever. He's probably covering up a whole bunch of fear and limiting beliefs with this story he tells people.
It could be this. Or it could be something else... such as...
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Update: He just confessed to me that he had a girlfriend who was his first love back in 2005. She died...he hasn't dated since.
I had a feeling while reading the OP that this guy probably had some deep pain or hangup that he wasn't able to deal with. Maybe he hides behind his educational work, or maybe he was never really the type to be that interested in dating in the first place, and after suffering a major loss, he just didn't want to bother anymore. There's nothing wrong with that.
The pouring beer on someone's head because they are annoying you thing is a big red flag though. It sounds like he never properly dealt with his grief and instead began projecting negative energy toward the women in his life. Kinda a sad story, really. Emotions need to be processed and a lot of people don't know how.
It's also possible that he was always a dick, and getting hurt just made him worse.
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I see nothing wrong with what he's saying. He focused on his career and getting his **** together rather than ending up with some girl, getting married, then divorced. Or, being in a relationship that failed and held him back from what he truly wanted to do. Look at the divorce statistics before you go telling me that I'm bitter or I've been burned. At least he's being honest, unlike most people. People DO need relationships to feel validated. It's what people live for to make them happy. At least he's able to make himself happy without that "validation." I think many on here are just mad and deep down, they're the ones who are miserable because they can't do what this guy done. They're too busy worried about their spouse or significant other not liking them spending all their time bettering themselves and not enough time for them. They're taking care of kids that they "accidentally" had and didn't want. They can't up and do what they want to do and they wish they could. Instead, they're stuck in a relationship / marriage that sucks and they don't know how to leave because they "love " the person and they need to feel "loved" too. He poured beer on the woman, so what? He didn't hit her. And, he asked her to leave him alone. What else did SHE do to him? And, to be honest, if the shoe were on the other foot and a woman did that to a man, nobody would bat an eye.
I agree with most of this, but as someone who's allergic to beer and has a few other serious food allergies, I have to say that throwing food/drink on someone isn't really a "no big deal" thing. Unless you know that person well and are throwing things on each other playfully, it's really not okay. Even if the person doesn't have an allergy it's a cruel and abnormal thing to do. A sign of a frightening temper and a lack of self-control. No normal human being would ever assault another person like this. They'd just get up and leave the bar if the person wouldn't stop bugging them.
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I met a 36 year old man who has claimed he doesn't date at all. He says he is too overqualified to have a relationship with a woman. He spent his entire life in college and is going for a 4th degree. He's told me he has met some crappy women in his life and even poured a pitcher of beer on a woman's head because she wouldn't leave him alone. I talked to him and he doesn't get why men want female validation. Can a man claim to be overqualified to have a relationship with women like he says?
He is not overqualified if he is pouring beer on a woman's head..Lol. He's U N D E R qualified.
I have no idea what "overqualified" means. Who cares if he has 20 degrees? Degrees don't make a person good partners, nor do they make them good at relationships. Maybe what means is that he thinks he's super smart and doesn't think many women are smart enough for him. Maybe he thinks they don't have enough interesting things (to him) to talk about. Maybe he needs to learn how to appreciate women for other things than what he currently does.
Was all set with a response only to notice this is a 4 year dormant thread.
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