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I casually mentioned that my parents were having a dinner party and now my gf wants to go. This is bad for several reasons. First my parents aren't to open to interracial relationships so me showing up with a blonde hair blue eyed chick probably won't fly. Second, she wouldn't really fit anywhere all the older men will drink and play dice, all the older women will gossip about how so and so hooked up with a black or Mexican guy. There will also be an assortment of random people from my younger days who my gf doesn't know and I want to catch up with. She won;t know any of the stories or inside jokes. She basically has no reason to come so how do I tell her nicely that she shouldn't attend?
Your first mistake was casually mentioning it. Tell her "maybe, next time". You don't owe her an explanation. It's your business. She's not your wife.
I take it you're not that serious about her. If you were, you'd realize that eventually, she's going to have to suffer through your family at some point.
I casually mentioned that my parents were having a dinner party and now my gf wants to go. This is bad for several reasons. First my parents aren't to open to interracial relationships so me showing up with a blonde hair blue eyed chick probably won't fly. Second, she wouldn't really fit anywhere all the older men will drink and play dice, all the older women will gossip about how so and so hooked up with a black or Mexican guy. There will also be an assortment of random people from my younger days who my gf doesn't know and I want to catch up with. She won;t know any of the stories or inside jokes. She basically has no reason to come so how do I tell her nicely that she shouldn't attend?
If you are so ashamed of your girlfriend and going against your culture and your parents wishes regarding said girlfriend why are you with her?
You should make a decision regarding your life and deal with the consequences of said decision with your family.
I take it you're not that serious about her. If you were, you'd realize that eventually, she's going to have to suffer through your family at some point.
She's serious. I just want to avoid the drama that is really unnecessary. If my parents can't accept her so be it. It's just not worth picking a fight about.
If you are so ashamed of your girlfriend and going against your culture and your parents wishes regarding said girlfriend why are you with her?
You should make a decision regarding your life and deal with the consequences of said decision with your family.
I'm not ashamed I just hate drama. My parents are currently stressed because my sister is getting married. Honestly I just want to get drunk in peace with my old HS buddies. It's not my culture by the way I consider myself American above all else.
Warn her, advise her it's not what you really want and why and if she still pushes back Let her go and experience it for herself.
It's not up to you to make choices for her. She is going to have to meet the parents at some point if you really feel this is serious relationship material
I understand it's an uncomfortable situation, but it shouldn't be this difficult of one to deal with.
Last edited by rego00123; 05-22-2014 at 04:55 PM..
She might not be *your* wife material if she has to deal with racism from your family.
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