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Yeah that statement reads "sorry I don't know what you dumb women want"
Lady Dragon you can do better!
I just have to figure out HOW! I have had such poor experiences with men that I feel like taking the easy route and just flying solo for good. But, I miss the intimacy and friendship that comes with a good relationship. Darn if I do, darn if I don't.
I just have to figure out HOW! I have had such poor experiences with men that I feel like taking the easy route and just flying solo for good. But, I miss the intimacy and friendship that comes with a good relationship. Darn if I do, darn if I don't.
^^^
This right here = I can identify.
Circling back to the mind-reading failure - he sounds like an ass who himself wants to be pursued. Some men, blame it on the economy, or perhaps the instant gratification culture we now live in, or who knows what else, don't want to invest the time and effort in pursuing a woman - if they want to make an effort of any sort they stick with the low lying fruit. People in general these days are reluctant to take risks. Love is all about laying yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable - nothing ventured nothing gained.
If a guy I went out with didn't call back to show interest in meeting again, I would just assume he wasn't that interested. Here's my take - if he really wants my company, he will find a way to make it happen. I don't want a guy who is too timid to reveal that he has an interest in me. He can stay at home, or he can go hang out with the "assertive" women willing to pursue him. I'd skip the part about finding out why he hasn't called.
There are GREAT guys out there, and a lot of turds too. Hope you find your diamond among the doodoo of the dating scene.
"I'm sorry I didn't read your mind better.." was his response to what statement of yours?
I can't post verbatim, already deleted the conversation.
He had made a statement about how he thought I wasn't interested.
I responded with that is how I felt about him.
He stated when he saw me during the week, I had not made a point to make eye contact or stop what I was doing to acknowledge him.
I responded with a very typical "me" type statement with a little sarcasm how I was in my zone and doing my thing and getting sch*t done, and he should try it sometime.
His response was that that I was calling him lazy - unsure if he was being playful or if he took me seriously.
I responded with "you'll be the death of my sarcasm, won't you? I can't win"
His response was the mind reading statement.
I can't post verbatim, already deleted the conversation.
He had made a statement about how he thought I wasn't interested.
I responded with that is how I felt about him.
He stated when he saw me during the week, I had not made a point to make eye contact or stop what I was doing to acknowledge him.
I responded with a very typical "me" type statement with a little sarcasm how I was in my zone and doing my thing and getting sch*t done, and he should try it sometime.
His response was that that I was calling him lazy - unsure if he was being playful or if he took me seriously.
I responded with "you'll be the death of my sarcasm, won't you? I can't win"
His response was the mind reading statement.
Awwww Dragon you sounded disinterested.You avoided looking at him?
Circling back to the mind-reading failure - he sounds like an ass who himself wants to be pursued. Some men, blame it on the economy, or perhaps the instant gratification culture we now live in, or who knows what else, don't want to invest the time and effort in pursuing a woman - if they want to make an effort of any sort they stick with the low lying fruit. People in general these days are reluctant to take risks. Love is all about laying yourself out there, making yourself vulnerable - nothing ventured nothing gained.
If a guy I went out with didn't call back to show interest in meeting again, I would just assume he wasn't that interested. Here's my take - if he really wants my company, he will find a way to make it happen. I don't want a guy who is too timid to reveal that he has an interest in me. He can stay at home, or he can go hang out with the "assertive" women willing to pursue him. I'd skip the part about finding out why he hasn't called.
There are GREAT guys out there, and a lot of turds too. Hope you find your diamond among the doodoo of the dating scene.
The bolded actually ties into some of the things that this guy said during our drinks get together. He was 2yrs single, last relationship was a pretty nasty break up, and he was now "focusing" on himself with a huge commitment to working out and improving his life. Great!
But, the ringer that stuck with me was: He states he has been with both types of women, the arm candy that 'needs' a man to support her and the independent woman that is self sufficient. And while he appreciates the low maintenance of the independent type women, he will choose the arm candy right now at this point in his life because both types will eventually leave him, but the arm candy will look great. How I interpreted this: He justifies the arm candy based solely on looks and has no intentions to connect with her mind or personality, it is solely a physical satisfaction that will eventually dry up. He dismisses that independent woman because she'll abandon him if he isn't bringing home the bacon in the event some life event happens that impacts his financial / employment status (this is actually how he described it).
I'm the independent type woman.
But, I also believe he is so confident in himself that he expected me to pursue him.
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