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I do believe in "the one", but I don't believe they're the same one most people settle down with. Romantic love is not a myth, it just doesn't bode well with the monotony & stress of frumpy domesticity & child rearing. That's my opinion; agree to disagree.
Okay, Highlander jokes aside, I don't believe in "the one" I think there is usually a combination of personality type and such that is a great match for someone and there can be hundreds (or even thousands) of people with that match. I also think there is something to be said about what Chow said earlier about loving the one you are with because while I believe there are several thousands of matches out there for any one person, I also think none of those matches are or could ever be "perfect." We are all just human after all. So when you find that good match, you have to work at the relationship, all the time in order to have that "he or she is the one" feeling.
Any kind of a match is very difficult. If we have things in common, see things the same (or close), and get along that is good enough for me as long as I sense it will be long term.
"The one" as in a "twin soul/flame"? Yes. However, one can have multiple soul mates throughout their lifetime, and they're not always romantic partners.
Okay, Highlander jokes aside, I don't believe in "the one" I think there is usually a combination of personality type and such that is a great match for someone and there can be hundreds (or even thousands) of people with that match. I also think there is something to be said about what Chow said earlier about loving the one you are with because while I believe there are several thousands of matches out there for any one person, I also think none of those matches are or could ever be "perfect." We are all just human after all. So when you find that good match, you have to work at the relationship, all the time in order to have that "he or she is the one" feeling.
Any kind of a match is very difficult. If we have things in common, see things the same (or close), and get along that is good enough for me as long as I sense it will be long term.
Not into short term relationships or ONS.
This. "The One" is a myth, a productive of romantic love, which is short-lived. Once limerance wears off you see the person for who they truly are, warts and all. Hint: they're not perfect, nor perfect for you. They can be compatible, you can get along and you may be able to build a life with this person and be happy and content most days out of the week, also, it is possible to find a faithful and devoted partner, but they are not "the one."
This is as good as it gets, folks. Take after the people in the East who understand this stuff.
It might have been said already, but I think that 'the one' gets to be that because of the time and effort you put into the relationship. Looking for mystical clues that it's meant to be, or thinking it needs to feel a certain way or function according to fate in order to be 'true' is only going to frustrate you.
But there definitely has to be sex and likemindedness before it can work.
It might have been said already, but I think that 'the one' gets to be that because of the time and effort you put into the relationship. Looking for mystical clues that it's meant to be, or thinking it needs to feel a certain way or function according to fate in order to be 'true' is only going to frustrate you.
But there definitely has to be sex and likemindedness before it can work.
the thing is though, there has to be some chemistry there in the first place, or trying to develop a long term romantic relationship is not going to happen.
I believe in "the one" that is suited for a person. I knew from the first few times I spent time with my husband that I had strong feelings for him and I was only 15 when I met him. We saw each other briefly for a couple of weeks when I was 15 and then he went away for a bit. He and I found each other again after some years had gone by and dated again. Again we broke up and went our own ways. Once more we met up a few years later and this time we have stayed together. Next month we have been married for 8 years, together as a couple for almost 10 years and have known each other for 17. I knew I loved him all those years ago and we kept coming back to each other until we were "the one" at that right point in time for us both. WE both had some growing and learning to do and I firmly believe that this is what makes us strong and truly in love with each other.
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