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Old 05-28-2014, 07:42 PM
 
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I guess I just don't know how to act.

And it's not in my nature to just "hook up".
You do know how to act. You stay true to yourself but you exercise some control over your actions. You're a passionate, kind hearted guy, you just need to control this a bit more. It's difficult at first because it goes against your nature, but in time you'll be able to sit back a bit and be a little more discerning.
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Old 05-28-2014, 07:44 PM
 
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You do know how to act. You stay true to yourself but you exercise some control over your actions. You're a passionate, kind hearted guy, you just need to control this a bit more. It's difficult at first because it goes against your nature, but in time you'll be able to sit back a bit and be a little more discerning.
Nah, he doesn't. He's letting his emotions control him. That is a death sentence for a guy in today's dating world. You're wrong.
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Old 05-28-2014, 07:45 PM
 
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Pull back a bit. Don't be the first one to text or call. It takes some self control but it's a learned behaviour that you can change.
Good advice, I know other spots that say the same thing, but there this is called "manipulative."

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Old 05-28-2014, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Southeast Arizona
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You do know how to act. You stay true to yourself but you exercise some control over your actions. You're a passionate, kind hearted guy, you just need to control this a bit more. It's difficult at first because it goes against your nature, but in time you'll be able to sit back a bit and be a little more discerning.
That's what everyone says. But yes, I do get overexcited.

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Nah, he doesn't. He's letting his emotions control him. That is a death sentence for a guy in today's dating world. You're wrong.
And I have friends that hook up whenever. One said last night that he doesn't get attached like I do, and he's all for hooking up with random women.

Going on 23 never even had a first kiss yet. I find it hard to date. I can't do the bar scene, but that is the only other place around here to date outside of church.
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Old 05-28-2014, 08:23 PM
 
Location: sumter
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Don't always feel the need to have to be in a relationship or to have someone, don't put that pressure on yourself. Love yourself first and get involved with activities or start new hobbies. Love will eventually happen for you, you are still very young. Enjoy life in the mean time.
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Old 05-28-2014, 08:43 PM
 
Location: Southeast Arizona
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Don't always feel the need to have to be in a relationship or to have someone, don't put that pressure on yourself. Love yourself first and get involved with activities or start new hobbies. Love will eventually happen for you, you are still very young. Enjoy life in the mean time.
Well, I did finish my undergrad. So a lot of that crushing stress is gone.
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Old 05-28-2014, 08:53 PM
 
Location: sumter
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Well, I did finish my undergrad. So a lot of that crushing stress is gone.
Congrats to you, have you thought about moving to another city or state.
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Old 05-28-2014, 08:57 PM
 
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Congrats to you, have you thought about moving to another city or state.
I'll probably go to grad school in Mississippi or Tennessee. I just got back from visiting campuses.
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Old 05-28-2014, 09:07 PM
 
Location: sumter
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I'll probably go to grad school in Mississippi or Tennessee. I just got back from visiting campuses.
Sounds good man, you are doing all the right things. Just relax and be patience, things will work out for you.
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Old 05-28-2014, 09:25 PM
 
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It's so true. I'm 20, and I'm looking for a long term relationship. Never been into the hookup scene at all, but it seems like a lot of people around that age do just that.
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