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I don't get why online dating has such a bad rap. I looked at it as one of the dating tools, and one of the better ones.
How else are you going to meet people? I don't know how dating worked for all of you, but for me in college there was a constant stream of attractive dating opportunities.
After college there were still some, but they started to thin out.
5 or so years after college, you're in the workforce, working hard, and most of your social circle is either past friends or through work. They are not dating opportunities. They are coupled, married, or not age-appropriate.
You can go to awkward singles events like what churches put on, go to some community class, event, or meetup where all the guys will be trying to chat up the single attractive women too, get set up by a friend if you're lucky enough to have friends with datable connections (they probably don't because they're wrist-deep in baby-poopie and most of their current connections are related to these family activities).
Or you can go online.
What else should people do? Randomly approach women at the grocery store that are attractive? Your chances of success at that are just as low if not lower than online.
broads are literally everywhere bruv, why do you think they're magically hiding out on the internet?
women who post on dating sites are SERIOUSLY flawed (uggo, drug problems, flunkies, single mothers, over 25, cellulite, fatties, etc.). most are hiding a TON of skeletons in their closets and are cuckoo for cocoa puffs. normal women have men trying to bang them 587 times a day, they don't have the time to waste with that nonsense.
men who post on dating sites have zero game/confidence/money/status/looks/etc. women are just as sexually agressive as men (if not more so, they're always looking for $$$/status), they oogle me non-stop, violate me with their beady little eyes. i'm a man with feelings, not a piece of meat.
anyway, the problem is that both genders think the internet dating pool is some top-secret place where they'll magically attract people they can't get in the real world. so it's pretty much a perfect match: chumpy guys and dumpy gals.
just go out and be normal. buy a bunch of r.kelley cds and listen to what he says, top-notch advice. just don't pee on girls until you get to know them first. the internet is for porn and talking ****, not pulling ass.
Lol, Ive never online dated, but Ive heard some good things about it. I think, its more the conveniency.
I don't get why online dating has such a bad rap. I looked at it as one of the dating tools, and one of the better ones.
How else are you going to meet people? I don't know how dating worked for all of you, but for me in college there was a constant stream of attractive dating opportunities.
After college there were still some, but they started to thin out.
5 or so years after college, you're in the workforce, working hard, and most of your social circle is either past friends or through work. They are not dating opportunities. They are coupled, married, or not age-appropriate.
You answered your own question. The people you meet online are the leftovers. Any attractive male or female will find a relationship during their day-to-day life. Nature takes its course that way: eyes meet, sexual organs get aroused, conversations flow, etc.
Any attractive male or female will find a relationship during their day-to-day life. Nature takes its course that way: eyes meet, sexual organs get aroused, conversations flow, etc.
So does that mean any single people are inherently unattractive? I must be hideous!
Not all of us in our day to day lives interact with that many single people. All the single women I interact with on a regular basis are significantly older than me. All the other people are coupled. I'm the young one at work, so everyone's older.
The only way I can possibly meet singles my age (~30) is to purposefully do things that are not normal day-to-day routine.
Because some people use it who can't get someone any other way. Some are killers, others are married and others are disgusting people. That's why. Not everyone online is like that but many are. Plus there's this idea that if one has to use online they must be ugly or desperate even if not true.
Who would have though being over 25 makes you "seriously flawed." Everyone, STOP AGING!
As I mentioned in posts before, my now ex-husband came out of the closet and left me. So I am divorced/single again. I fall into this weird limbo of being too young and too old at the same time. Most men my age are looking for women 10 years or so younger than them (or at least it would seem that way with online dating and their preferences they list). A few younger men are into cougars, but I am not into "cubs" so that doesn't work for me. That leaves me with men 10+ years older than me (and a lot of them still have dreams of snagging a 20-year-old too). So who contacted me when I did online dating? Literally 50% of the men I met online were married. Half married and looking for a mistress! Then there were a lot of other men that no one wanted (meaning they appeared to be normal, but once you got to know them it turned out they were jerks or had mental or emotional issues). There were just a handful--of nice, normal men. But I just never hit it off with any of them (no chemistry--they weren't into me and I wasn't into them).
For me, online dating was a big waste of time and money. I've been dating for the past two years (took time off after my divorce) and in that time, the one man I dated for any length of time (several months)... I met through a shared hobby, "offline". All of the online dates I had were one or two dates and that was it. Never went beyond that.
Now, I won't say online dating doesn't work. Clearly it works for some people. People here have posted about meeting boyfriends, girlfriends, and even spouses online. I think a lot depends on your age (some ages have a though time... like young men and women over 35), location, and demographics. For me, it didn't work. I wasted a lot of time and money with zero results. For me, getting out there and meeting people in person seems to have worked the best. I meet less people, but the quality is higher, I have more in common with them, and I don't waste time on "dead end dating."
It could be just my area but, I would say 98% of the women pool on dating sites are either 1) obese 2) single mothers 3) totally ugly 4) serious mental issues. I noticed there were also a number of women calling themselves "nerdy" or "socially awkward". But being that I live in a semi-rural area naturally the quality and quantity of women are lower. I don't know if it's any better if one lives more in metro areas.
As for college, nobody is really doing any serious dating there. The college years are the time where you hook up as much as possible and broaden your horizons. You will never be in an environment filled with young attractive women in any other time of your life.
If someone does find a relationship in college it usually ends afterward because of having to move to different parts of the country for jobs.
I don't get why online dating has such a bad rap. I looked at it as one of the dating tools, and one of the better ones.
How else are you going to meet people? I don't know how dating worked for all of you, but for me in college there was a constant stream of attractive dating opportunities.
After college there were still some, but they started to thin out.
5 or so years after college, you're in the workforce, working hard, and most of your social circle is either past friends or through work. They are not dating opportunities. They are coupled, married, or not age-appropriate.
You can go to awkward singles events like what churches put on, go to some community class, event, or meetup where all the guys will be trying to chat up the single attractive women too, get set up by a friend if you're lucky enough to have friends with datable connections (they probably don't because they're wrist-deep in baby-poopie and most of their current connections are related to these family activities).
Or you can go online.
What else should people do? Randomly approach women at the grocery store that are attractive? Your chances of success at that are just as low if not lower than online.
If anyone wants to try online dating, they should just do it. You'll always have the people who say it's only for desperate losers, but why not find out for yourself?
You answered your own question. The people you meet online are the leftovers. Any attractive male or female will find a relationship during their day-to-day life. Nature takes its course that way: eyes meet, sexual organs get aroused, conversations flow, etc.
Well I must be a dog then. Or maybe it's because I live and teach school in a rural area where over 99% of the folks around here are married and there's not a whole lot to do anyway. Also, many times when people get out of a relationship, they need to reconfigure their social life b/c of mostly having couple friends and probably not a lot of single friends. I have plenty of women friends but most of the married ones don't want to go hang out and listen to music for instance. They will sometimes, but not often and while I have gone out to do that activity by myself, I don't feel comfortable doing that much, hence OLD. Even at the dances I go to, I already know all the people there and the only other single man is not going to be a suitable partner for me. I did meet a nice man at a weekend dance this past weekend though and flirted with at least 5 more, so there are some opportunities--they just doesn't come around very often.
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