Do we actually care about what other people think of us even when we say we don't care what other people think? (guy, love)

[Chowhound]

There are varying levels of caring about what others think, no one wants to go out the door with toilet paper dragging behind you, of course you "care" about what others think.

If you decide at 45 you wanna get that nose ring and purple hair.... go for it... assuming you can pull off the work part... LOL....

[Disgusted_53]

Originally Posted by Davros

It's something I tell myself to make myself feel better, but I care very much about my image.

Exactly!!

[krieger00]

A Lion doesn't concern itself with the opinions of sheep.

[jaypee]

Originally Posted by krieger00

A Lion doesn't concern itself with the opinions of sheep.

In order to be an immaculate member of a flock of sheep, one must above all be a sheep oneself.

[MarshallV84]

If only I could do this and not care what people think.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtZs9f7SQY4

[ATG5]

**** no, I don't.

[SeattleStyle]

I think we are ingrained to care. Humans were meant to live in communities and societies, not on their own. What people think of you and your reputation is directly aligned with your success. Whether this be in romantic, platonic or professional relationships. It is important that people see value in you. We've all done things to make people see value in us, make a good impression and prevent embarrassment.

Let's be honest. We become elated when we find out somebody is attracted to us, impressed with us, admires us or is just fond of us. Even if it is just a stranger. I think there is an effect too when we find out somebody is disappointed in us or dislikes us. We've all felt ashamed, guilty and the need to be accepted. We wouldn't feel these things if we didn't care.

Everybody cares. Whether they care enough to do something about it is the real question.

[MaggiePie]

I think most people care more than they want to admit, and by them even saying that, they might want you to have the perception that they don't care (which shows that they do care that you think they think that). Something like that.

[LXXXI]

Most probably actually do care, and use denial as a sort-of defense mechanism.

Some of us truly DON'T care. Not everyone will reach that level; most don't actually want to.

[Auraliea]

I care and wish I didn't.

I still doubt my own feelings and opinions when someone thinks something different. I am not going to change but it is a nuisance.