"Happy Wife, Happy Life"/"Happy Husband, Happy Home" (men, family)

[dejaentendu19]

In general I feel like the wife needs to be happy to keep the peace, but if I have a tough day at work my wife can pick up on it and that is great. Overall I'm happier than her on a regular basis, but when I have my down days she is awesome.

[kat949]

Originally Posted by LexWest

Which ideology do you most agree with if any? We've heard the first one many times before. However, studies are recently showing the latter is most true. An unhappy man leads to an unhappy home. I can see how this would apply if a man lost his job and was used to being the breadwinner, etc.

I don't necessarily think one is more correct than the other, but I generally get the impression most guys will compromise in favor of the wife, more often than not. I don't necessarily think the wife would always get her way, however. It would mean, for example, she would get a newer car, and he would get a used one, or keep his old one longer, if the couple can't afford two new cars; everything else being equal.

Thoughts?

How about: "Happy couple" -or- "Happy people, happy home?" (??)

[rego00123]

Might as well say "happy meal creates happy children"

Of course creating a positive environment yields more of the same.

[kat949]

Originally Posted by rego00123

Might as well say "happy meal creates happy children"

Of course creating a positive environment yields more of the same.

You totally miss the point.

How is happy wife truly happy life?

So is this now about obedience?

Duh- No one should feel they have to appease their wife or hubbies and tell themselves to $TFU just to keep a happy home a truly happy home.

But, if that's what you do to stay happy, then I feel sorry for ya. Self-hate. Haha.

A truly happy home is about finding partners we mutually love and respect.

I really dislike these quotes. Friggin stupid. And to equate what I said to feeding children makes them happy is an oversimplification to say the least.

[rego00123]

Originally Posted by kat949

You totally miss the point.

How is happy wife truly happy life?

So is this now about obedience?

Duh- No one should feel they have to appease their wife or hubbies and tell themselves to $TFU just to keep a happy home a truly happy home.

But, if that's what you do to stay happy, then I feel sorry for ya. Self-hate. Haha.

A truly happy home is about finding partners we mutually love and respect.

I really dislike these quotes. Friggin stupid. And to equate what I said to feeding children makes them happy is an oversimplification to say the least.

I was pointing out happy people create happy environments. Not "just" giving them things make them happy.

Giving THEM what THEY need (aka: mutual love and respect) naturally yields "happiness"
You can't disregard that material things also give "happiness" just because it has less of an affect on the over arching time a relationship may or may not last.

They all work in conjunction with one another.

It's a retarded saying, by definition suffocates itself out of any "profound" meaning or insight.

Yes, people receiving what they require to be happy creates more "happiness"....no ****.

[Forum_Newbie]

For the last 5 years of my marriage, I was the primary bread winner and supported our family...AND I HATED IT! My soon to be ex husband was in the construction industry and not a real go-getter. Ironically, so was I (outside sales) and extremely driven and someone had to go make the money.

Over time I grew resentful, he became disinterested and now we are getting a divorce. There were other contributing factors, but 5 years of me working 12-14 hours a day only to have him call me when I was on the road and ask, What's for dinner - that put me over the edge.

Happy wife does equal happy life, but just as accurate, Happy husband does equal happy home.

[Muffy1]

DC is a terrible place for women to find a long term relationship due to the ratio of females to males. I don't think the reason for the large number of singles is due to ambition or the number of hours people work. Most of the jobs in DC are federal jobs so I am not sure how much work they are doing. I know they talk about how much work they do and how hard they work instead of actually doing it. Contractors and people in the private sector may work long hours but if they have contracts with the federal government then I am not sure how long they work. DC is filled with self absorbed selfish people that claim to do "important" work. If you are a single woman hoping to find a husband stay far away from this cesspool!!

[reneeh63]

I think often men are more low key and just don't care as much about stuff. So it makes sense to me that if something isn't a big deal to you, then it's easy to compromise..Sometimes women get so stuck on something and it's a petty thing - so why not just let them have their way if it's no skin off your nose? Kinda like "pick your battles". Of course that means that SHE has to give in SOME of the time, too, especially if it's something not important to HER.

The real problems start with the person won't compromise even if the don't care at all, just to be stubborn and have their own way.

[TabulaRasa]

Obviously, both. If you're an unhappy person, whatever your gender, your relationships won't be happy, either.

[katie45]

No one is happy 24/7, feelings change many times throughout the day. Perhaps instead of 'happy', people should be more concerned about 'contentment'.

Are they content with who they are and their lifestyle?
Are they content with the choices they've made?
Are they content with the partner they've chosen?

So many today are putting too much into "feelings"....thinking if they don't 'feel good' then there's something wrong. Life isn't about 'feelings', it's about doing the right thing and making the right choices based on being mature and responsible.

Creating a solid and healthy foundation for any relationship requires that both individuals work together and not waste time wondering who is the happiest.

It's not going to bed together than strengthens a union, it's getting up and facing what the day brings. It's about being there for each other when you're at your worst; being ill and not looking your best; the car breaking down; the kids sick; short on funds; plumbing backed up. . . etc., etc. If you base the state of your marriage on 'feeling happy', you're working against yourselves.