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I don't recall if it was you or the other girl, but I found the Xanax before an exam interesting. Occasionally I hear about Dentists prescribing a couple benzos before a procedure also. I'd probably wait until I found an attractive guy like you said then go see a psychiatrists and tell him that or you heard that. see what they say about and maybe you could take an anxiety med (btw Klonopin is generally considered safer and milder than Xanax) just for getting going on the dialators and perhaps the special moment.
The $6000 treatment sounds like a last resort for extreme cases to me. Talk openly with your Dr. and a psychiatrists and see what they say.
My regular doctor prescribed the Xanax because I told her that I had extreme anxiety about being examined by a gynecologist. I took double the recommended dose and I went to see the gynecologist, but she still couldn't examine me. I've also tried Valium and Ativan in the past. My regular doctor now wants me to ask the gynecologist if she'll do the exam with me completely sedated, but I haven't gotten around to asking her yet.
My regular doctor prescribed the Xanax because I told her that I had extreme anxiety about being examined by a gynecologist. I took double the recommended dose and I went to see the gynecologist, but she still couldn't examine me. I've also tried Valium and Ativan in the past. My regular doctor now wants me to ask the gynecologist if she'll do the exam with me completely sedated, but I haven't gotten around to asking her yet.
Well, then I'd go with the $6000 treatment, from what you've described he's had success and knows what he's doing.
Well, then I'd go with the $6000 treatment, from what you've described he's had success and knows what he's doing.
Yeah, I definitely believe that this doctor is more qualified to help me than anyone else. It's just the cost of the procedure and having to travel out of state to go see him make me hesitate a bit. A lot of his patients are already married, so they have a greater incentive to get treated than I do, but I'm sure some single patients get treated also.
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Originally Posted by DemhaFeta
Not at all! Sex is extremely overrated. People won't die without sex.
I agree. I mean, I've gone quite a long time without it already. lol
You simply have to realize and be realistic that ANY type of behavior modification takes much longer than three days.
Yes, it's an ongoing process and the doctor keeps in touch with patients after treatment. But I don't think it's hard to believe that patients can successfully have intercourse/be penetrated after treatment since that's what treatment involves. It's recommended that patients continue dilation exercises and some choose to continue to sleep with a dilator in place to keep those muscles from tensing up.
If patients have other problems regarding sex and intimacy, then they might need additional therapy.
Thought it might seem less painful to start with the psychological part and if that didn't work then try the physical with the dilators? If part of it is from psychological issues that stemmed from a trauma, try working on that part (only a suggestion). I think once our minds are more clear we feel more relaxed--that could help with reducing the fear or possibly eliminating it. Just my 2 cents though. I'd try the painless way first lol
Thought it might seem less painful to start with the psychological part and if that didn't work then try the physical with the dilators? If part of it is from psychological issues that stemmed from a trauma, try working on that part (only a suggestion). I think once our minds are more clear we feel more relaxed--that could help with reducing the fear or possibly eliminating it. Just my 2 cents though. I'd try the painless way first lol
Ok, thanks for your input! I didn't really experience a severe trauma. There were a few minor events that I experienced as a child which made me terrified of penetration ever since. I don't see much of a point in talking to a therapist about it because it's not like I was ever sexually assaulted, and I imagine it'd be a 10 minute conversation at most. lol I'm sure they would probably just suggest relaxation techniques and that I should get more comfortable exploring my body on my own. Which is fine, but I'm already aware of that. I think the main problem is just that I have no positive (or even neutral) associations with penetration, so that's why I'm more concerned with jumping right into the physical aspect. My plan before was to take baby steps, but I just haven't done very well on my own.
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