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So some people can't, and shouldn't take what they can get.
Stay safe, VC. Nobody should have to settle for an abuser, a thug, someone unstable, and other marginal types. Respect yourself, and stay safe. The same dudes who tell women to settle for that would never do it themselves.
Dude, you didn't read her post. She said she doesn't get approached by "average". She doesn't have that option. Some women would definitely be down with being approached by "average", but it doesn't happen. Even if they do the approaching, Mr. Average doesn't respond. That's a valid concern.
Again, if "average" is above her level of attractiveness, then she's still acting entitled. Nobody "deserves" average either, much less hawwwt.
If you want a relationship, you be the best self you can be and look for the best mate that self can get. If that doesn't do it for you, you sit out the game and no whining allowed.
If men don't approach you, you approach them. I assure you, humans have handled this for several thousand generations without too much issue, obviously.
What adults do with their time and money is their business- neither church nor state should interfere, as long as it isn't infringing on anyone else's rights, which going to an escort/prostitute does not.
Stay safe, VC. Nobody should have to settle for an abuser, a thug, someone unstable, and other marginal types. Respect yourself, and stay safe. The same dudes who tell women to settle for that would never do it themselves.
Agreed. VinceShamWow is just all talk. Chances are they would never settle for someone simply because they're available, but they'll tell others to do such.
Now, I am not around guys too often. These guys approached me, otherwise I wasn't paying them any attention. And I am not settling just to have something.
If you have to settle, then you still won't be happy when there's no love, or attractiveness. There's that saying. better off alone than in bad company.
And really the OP stated she'd be an escort to have a guy she's attracted to. That's just as fair game as settling, only better, as there's no long term unhappiness involved there.
Why take something cheap for free if you can pay a bit and get something you actually want? So, if you can afford it, an escort can work.
Being in a relationship and just settling is dangerous, stupid, and not a solution. You'll still complain and cry because you married or took someone you didn't really want, and they aren't making you happy either.
So, they are going to the other extreme. From being entitled to telling people to be desperate.
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I find it hard to believe a woman would actually have to pay money to get laid; there's a lot of guys out there that will do it for free
No, they won't. They'll do what THEY want, not what SHE wants. When you pay someone, you get what you pay for, you call the shots. There's no guarantee otherwise, and the chances are high the woman wouldn't get anything out of the experience.
But, what they can get is not what they're attracted to. So, they should have a relationship with no real feeling, or attractiveness simply because the other person would take them?
I am never gonna see settling as good if you do not like the person, and/or aren't attracted to them.
Everyone wants someone they're attracted to. So, hell, everyone is entitled in that case. Do you know anyone that goes out to find people they aren't attracted to just to be matched up?
Now, maybe a date. But lets say their personality isn't what you're attracted to either? Should you still take them because you can?
And you assume average. Some don't even get that. They get no-good. be it in looks, or personality.
So some people can't, and shouldn't take what they can get.
I could have me a nice thug with gold teeth, chains who was 23 and still in HS if I wanted. But I didn't want him, and asked that he stop speaking to me.
I could have had a dirty bum that had no job, car, hygiene and rode a bike all day. Again, not what I wanted, and not average. That was no-good.
And another guy that came off as a pervert, or total socially inept person.
Does someone like these guys offer a promising relationship?
None of those are average. So your "take what you can get" advice is horrible in case of some people, because not everyone has average options.
I could be fine with an average guy. Doesn't need to be Will Smith, or Brad Pitt. But I am not gonna take a thug, or an old bum just because they show interest.
No, to want certain attributes is fine. To think you deserve them, that is entitlement. Hey, if what you can get doesn't do it for you....that sucks...rough luck I guess. But like my last post said, if that's the case you sit it out and don't whine.
Of course, you could also take responsibility for yourself and your place in life, better yourself, get a better job, move to a better place. By then you'd probably live somewhere where there wasn't any thugs, drunk bums and perverts to approach you. In their place there may be a few decent single guys. You could try out different things you've never done before and meet new people in the process.
...or you could just stay on the net complaining.
Whatevs, it doesn't bother me either way.
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