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My grandson is 29 years' old, a little immature, clean-cut, nice height, college-educated, self-employed in computer marketing, and is fairly-handsome, has lots of friends, an easy-going-attitude, and is well-liked by many. However, he has had little experience with women, having only one relationship for three years, which he broke, after she cheated on him. He is an only child, and a little spoiled. His mother sees him as walking on top of water, and the star of the universe. He had his own rented house, but now is living with his mother temporarily. Father lives nearby, and he sees him often.
We live in a very-large city, in the North East.
The type of women he dates are usually well-endowed in the upper front, and back parts of their body, and usually consider by many "attractive." They could be "space cadets," as long as they are beautiful, and usually has the tendency to choose women who are below him in many aspects. Lack of self-esteem, perhaps?
He usually comes to me for advise, when he is in a new relationship, and I give him honest advice based on my life's experiences and wisdom, and what I can pinpoint based on my findings, and how they interact in my presence.
His new girlfriend is 25 years'old, and an ILLEGAL ALIEN, in this country only six years. As a trade, she cuts hair, she is a high-school graduate, and is very exotically beautiful. Her family look poor, and different in looks from our family, have expressed a desire to return to their country, upon "making some money in the USA", as they own a house there, and speak almost no English. The father is a Chef at a restaurant, the mother is a stay-at-home-mom, and she has one brother, 21 years' old. The g/f is very-street smart, and speaks fairly-good English. And overall they appear to be honest, hard-working people, trying to survive in an unknown country.
Since I know little about her, she offered that she was in a previous relationship, but that she had to ended because he cheated on her. She often drops on my grandson, unexpectedly, even though she lives quite a distance from him, about two hours' each way......."to see what he is doing....." She does not drive, and uses public transportation, i.e.: subway, ferry, and a bus to get to his house. They see each other on weekends, and my grandson drives to her home, stays there, and sleeps in her bed. Parents allow this......
He appears to be more into her, that she is into him, and they give each other expensive gifts. However, there are lots of times that he is supposed to see her on weekends that she cancels, because she has to " baby sit" for her friends babies or pets.
One thing that I find unusual is that her "best friend" is a male homosexual/transgender. They work together at the Beauty Shop. They spend lots of time together, and presently are not speaking to each other.......we do not know the reason. Jealousy perhaps?
My grandson mentioned that she was on Facebook, and so am I, so I decided to say hello. Well, she had about 10 female friends, and about 200 male friends. Most of them giving her comments about her physical beauty, as her picture portrait a beautiful woman in a low-cut dress, very, very short, and six-inches high-heel, sitting in a bed, with her legs crossed. She answered every comment thanking them for being "so kind......"
This lead me to believe that this is the type of woman that needs lots of male attention, in order to survive, so my decision was since she is in Facebook, where else I could find her, since I know little about her, and my g/s wanted me to advice him.
I found her in other social media: In one, she was dancing like a pornography queen, all she needed was the pole. In another one, one particular man wanted to "cook" for her.......and in another she was in a park that had a water fountain. The man picked her up in his arms, got her wet, she went running away from him, he came back and planted two kisses on her mouth...... and hugged her full of passion, she did not fight him at all.....and all the dates of these pictures were, while she has been dating my g/s. She had many other pictures of clubs that she attends. I have not brought any of these findings to my g/s, because I think he needs to find these on his own.
The rest of the family and I feel that he can do better, and that this woman is not for him. She is way too savvy and street smart for him, and gives the impression of being a loose woman. Plus her culture is so different than his......
As of late, she has been pressing him to marry her..........perhaps to become an American Citizen? I know that I should not have looked her up in other social media, but this is my g/s, and I want the best for him......even though he is an adult, and he makes the ultimate decision. He is the heir of my inheritance. One of our greatest fears is that, if he marries her, and have children, she may take his money and run to her country with the children.......and we may never see them again, since her country and the USA, does not have exchange treaties.....It has been happening to many other people.
Your opinions are appreciated, as long as they are constructive, and in good taste. Thank you,
Let the boy live his own life and make his own mistakes.
All you can do is voice your concern, it's not your place to interfere. He is a grown man capable of making his own choices.
Wow, I've heard of "mama's boys" but Grandma's boy?? Stop being so nosey. Tell your grandson to put on his bigboy underpants and let him figure it out.
Curious--you said you know very little about her--how did you come to find out that they're all illegal aliens?
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