Women, do you care how many sexual partners your potential man had? (dating, sociopathic)

[medellinheel]

I am curious of what woman's thoughts on this are. As in what's the imaginary number you are ok with. I know lots of men have a delusional idea of number of sexual partners for women to have had before they are no longer LTR material.

[Raena77]

Let's say one.lol!

But we know the truth.

[HappyRain]

I don't care. it's his attitude I care for.

Spoiler

Did he just dehumanize, dump and use all the women he was with? if so, that's gonna lower my respect for him, and I am probably gonna be gone. Like a guy here with a 4 year girlfriend. He told her he got a woman pregnant, thought of her as nothing but a fling, wanted her to get an abortion, and left her and his child and didn't look back. He started to feel bad, and told her. Needless to say when she heard that, she left him. And I don't blame her. Whether, or not, she came back, idk.

I have no respect for players and con people. If you're that selfish, and can use people and toss them out, you are sociopathic, or psychotic. And even if he treats me well, doesn't make him any less a creep.

Now if he had bad luck with relationships, but actually did like and respect the women he had, then sure. Not everyone lives happily every after when they have sex with a boyfriend or girlfriend.

So, I wouldn't care if he wasn't a sleazy player, and he's tested as clean.

[medellinheel]

I could never tell a potential GF my real number of sexual partners. I would probably say something like 5 when the real number is close to 50.

[LXXXI]

Originally Posted by medellinheel

I know lots of men have a delusional idea of number of sexual partners for women to have had before they are no longer LTR material.

So because you don't agree with it, it's delusional? But for a woman to insist that a "real man" must conform to her laundry list of wants, which often are contradictory and eliminate 98%-99% of the male population, that's perfectly OK?

Is that what you're saying?

[Dewdroplet76]

Back when I was dating - I did care. However, I'm probably in the minority on this one.

[medellinheel]

Originally Posted by LXXXI

So because you don't agree with it, it's delusional? But for a woman to insist that a "real man" must conform to her laundry list of wants, which often are contradictory or eliminate 98%-99% of the male population, that's perfectly OK?

Is that what you're saying?

I do not think you understood what I meant.

Men want and expect something that is just not practical. Gonna be rare to find women 25 or older who are virgins or only had 2 or 3 sexual partners. Or that they are some ***** if they been with more. Which is not fair to the woman.

[jillabean]

You know, I never asked... so I guess in a way I don't care. But at the same time, I do care. Are his past relationships with women LTRs or is he some playboy that sleeps with hundreds of women. I've never dated the playboy type... not interested because I figure they would use me too like they did so many other women. The men I've dated tend to be the ones who form relationships with women and don't just use and throw them away. That's what matters to me.

[Ceece]

I think this is one area where people can/should probably fudge and say what they have to say to prevent problems. It's not usually good to lie about relationships but I don't see the benefit in telling someone about your first 6 months on Tinder when you hooked up with a different person every weekend either if it's not something you are doing anymore. LOL.

[JustJulia]

Not really. You can determine whether a guy is just a user without knowing his number, and a low number won't preclude his being a user either. I think it's much more important how he treats women and regards them as people.