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If you find it fascinating, then surely you're aware of how a lot of OTHER people view it It doesn't go over well with many people.
I can confidently say that "you might be surprised". I did a study in college on the demographics of online dating websites (in fact, you just reminded me that I promised to forward this to someone) and I made a post of the results. I was paraphrasing then, and it'll be even worse now since that post was months ago, but a significant percentage of women had mathematically ruled out like 99% of men on their criteria alone, and a small percentage (something like 2-6%?) had actually mathematically eliminated ALL MEN ON EARTH.
The "average" woman actually requires quite a bit, to be sure. I'm not saying that people aren't entitled to hold out for what they want, but a lot of people are going to be waiting for a LONG time.
I can't rep you again just yet. I really dislike that "Share the rep before giving to this person again" BS.
But that post was spot-on, and the second part really nailed it.
Is a lack of hair really a negative thing? I never thought about it much. I met and dated a lot of men who completely shaved their head or buzzed it. My first husband has been shaving his for years, and it wasn't an uncommon thing in the Marine Corps.
I thought old might be better for me since im pretty shy and have a hard time meeting new women and striking a conversation with people i dont know so i figured it would be easier for me to break the ice online but obviously not being attractive works against me with old
You've been presented with a very valuable lesson here.
I find it fascinating in a good way. Boring, shallow men make me want to go home.
Right, and some other women do too. But the "majority" do not, and they especially don't consider "geeky" and "boring and shallow" to be opposites, either. In fact, many women liken the two.
Is a lack of hair really a negative thing? I never thought about it much. I met and dated a lot of men who completely shaved their head or buzzed it. My first husband has been shaving his for years, and it wasn't an uncommon thing in the Marine Corps.
Is a lack of hair really a negative thing? I never thought about it much. I met and dated a lot of men who completely shaved their head or buzzed it. My first husband has been shaving his for years, and it wasn't an uncommon thing in the Marine Corps.
My current husband keeps his buzzed pretty short.
Meh, I just threw it out there because it's occasionally mentioned as something categorically unattractive. My original point wasn't to agree (I like it, personally), but rather that, despite the other elements of my OLD profile, I'm pretty much an average looking dude
So what? Do you need to be wanted by the planet? Hopefully not.
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Right, and some other women do too. But the "majority" do not, and they especially don't consider "geeky" and "boring and shallow" to be opposites, either. In fact, many women liken the two.
I prefer hair. I'd have to first know the guy and fall in love with him before my eyes would see a bald or shaved guy as yummy.
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Is a lack of hair really a negative thing? I never thought about it much. I met and dated a lot of men who completely shaved their head or buzzed it. My first husband has been shaving his for years, and it wasn't an uncommon thing in the Marine Corps.
It's not a matter of not being content with it. The complaint of many men is that there are many who are ONLY content with it, to the point where they're the only deciding factors.
In my profile, I geek out HARD about some really esoteric things...enough to turn off most women. Some might argue that there are many women who are, in fact, into the same things I'm into. Others would argue that women don't care and that because I meet the aforementioned criteria, I'm "eligible". My experience points towards the latter, but I can't make a definitive argument one way or another for reasons I typed out earlier.
Hehe. You said esoteric. I would gather you're correct about your assessment.
And geeking out hard to such things, or other niche things, was what often drew me to a profile. If these things weren't present then I never developed any interest. That is what made me picky.
So what? Do you need to be wanted by the planet? Hopefully not.
Nope. As mentioned before, I'm doing just fine. My point in that post where I mentioned it, was that, despite having qualities that are considered unattractive, there is a possibility that my success in OLD stems from meeting the "preferred formula" aspects of a profile. The implied suggestion is that people may not care at all what's in the profile as long as you meet x, y, z criteria, just as women often lament that men don't read their profiles as long as the picture is hot. I never said anything about needed to be wanted by the planet. That's an odd conclusions.
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It doesn't go over well with many people.
