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It's kinda hard to say what is going on here, could be alot of diff. things Certainly alot of opinions from diff. angles.
One thing that came to mind is that I hope your husband is supportive of something you like, that he is not in favor of.
If you think his behavior is concerning than how about seeking out a Family Therapist
So my husband has really gotten into the show my little pony friendship is magic and even got our 5 year old son and 3 year old daughter into it. We are both 30 and he does work but not only does he watch the show he bought a few my little pony posters, t shirts for him and our kids and even bought tickets to drive to Baltimore to visit what is called "brony con". male and female fans of the show call themselves bronies. I don't know how to take this, an adult man, my husband watching and enjoying a show meant for girls! He even has our son watching it. My daughter is understandable but my husband and son watching a girls show and really getting into it? What do you all think?
Was not aware it was a show for girls.
But thanks for the trip back to 1955.
Okay, why the hell was my thread dealing with a RELATIONSHIP problem moved from relationships to here? How can I be expected to get RELATIONSHIP help from this section? Anyway. It bothers me because makes me feel I am married to a little kid rather than a grown man. I am not worried he's gay at all, and we do have frequent sex although lately I just haven't felt like having sex with him in large part due to this. He does work hard and still helps around the house and such, it's just that I feel embarrassed. He is not afraid to tell people he's a "brony" at all and wears my little pony t shirts and even has a mlp decal on his car. He has asked me to try watching it with him but I refuse. His arguments are that "it's a double standard that girls can like guy things but guys can't like girl things" and he said "as a woman you should not be bothered by this, by saying it's wrong for a man to like this you are saying that things considered masculine are by default superior to things considered feminine". He already has tickets to go to baltimore convention in august and said he'd buy a ticket for me but I said no way. He also plans to "dress up" as one of the pony's from the show his favorite being a pony called Rarity. He's also getting some costumes for the kids.
Whoever pointed out anonymously in a rep that it is a kid show, explain why tons of shows for kids are acceptable for adults to watch and this one isn't.
Okay, why the hell was my thread dealing with a RELATIONSHIP problem moved from relationships to here? How can I be expected to get RELATIONSHIP help from this section? Anyway. It bothers me because makes me feel I am married to a little kid rather than a grown man. I am not worried he's gay at all, and we do have frequent sex although lately I just haven't felt like having sex with him in large part due to this. He does work hard and still helps around the house and such, it's just that I feel embarrassed. He is not afraid to tell people he's a "brony" at all and wears my little pony t shirts and even has a mlp decal on his car. He has asked me to try watching it with him but I refuse. His arguments are that "it's a double standard that girls can like guy things but guys can't like girl things" and he said "as a woman you should not be bothered by this, by saying it's wrong for a man to like this you are saying that things considered masculine are by default superior to things considered feminine". He already has tickets to go to baltimore convention in august and said he'd buy a ticket for me but I said no way. He also plans to "dress up" as one of the pony's from the show his favorite being a pony called Rarity. He's also getting some costumes for the kids.
I think he has a point.
Why are you so resistant to this? It is a harmless bit of fun that you could all enjoy as a family, so, I'm really not seeing the issue.
"That's girly."
"What are you, a man or some little girl?!"
"You big p*ssy!"
"Mangina."
"You throw like a girl."
"Ok, ladies!!!!!" (said to intimidate a group of men)
"That's woman's work."
Associating feminine things with being inferior or less or weaker or cowardly is a symptom of the still rampant misogyny that boils beneath the surface of society (often spilling over). The sad thing is how many women do it, too.
I am glad at least your husband feels like he can pursue an interest with his kids without having to question his manhood...because you are doing it for him. Nice.
I have the same problem but with Hello Kitty. At my job, people know me to be a total KrAzY KaT LaDy because of all my cats and feral cat tales. So, they would just anonymously drop Hello Kitty trinkets, dolls, Pez Dispensers at my desk. I started a wall in my cubicle to display all this lo-budget kitsch more in their honor than as a display to a cartoon IVe never seen before. Now it is my reputation though. When people come to my cubicle from different departments, you can see an "Uhhhh, Oh-kayyyyyyy" look for a second. lolz
I think its cool that the Dad in the OP takes time out to watch what his kids want to watch and doesnt force WWF Wrestling or MMA fighting or something like that on them. If he wants a T-shirt to memorialize something that is dear to him and time spent with his quickly growing children, more power to him! I wish there were more Dads like that
"That's girly." "What are you, a man or some little girl?!" "You big p*ssy!" "Mangina." "You throw like a girl." "Ok, ladies!!!!!" (said to intimidate a group of men) "That's woman's work." Associating feminine things with being inferior or less or weaker or cowardly is a symptom of the still rampant misogyny that boils beneath the surface of society (often spilling over). The sad thing is how many women do it, too. I am glad at least your husband feels like he can pursue an interest with his kids without having to question his manhood...because you are doing it for him. Nice.
Still, I can't get around the fact he's a grown man into little cute colored pony's. It makes me think of him less as a man and more like a little kid. I have told him as much but he insists there's nothing wrong with it. But if he doesn't stop this girly stuff I will ask him to move out.
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lolz
