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Very few guys have enough options to turn down an attractive brunette because they prefer blonde beauties. It's hard enough for most guys to find mutual sexual attraction. I would jump for joy of an attractive woman was into me.
It's funny how differently threads on the same topic evolve here. In the past, whenever I've suggested that guys should look beyond the physical and consider personality,
But just because looks are part of the attraction doesnt mean personality isnt..
The guy I married - he told me on the first date that he is about to lose weight and I was dumb believing him. But instead, he gained, bec he just pretended to be on a diet. He was the typical overweight guy - slow/lazy/only unhealthy food and lifestyle. Which was part of the reason we split.
The guy after that hated his job, got depressed and went from gym rat / bodybuilder guy to chubby muscular guy (gained 50 lbs in the 1,5 years we dated). He went to gym every day but also ate massive amounts of food.
Last guy found me online at meetup.com and we emailed, texted and he called - sounded so great, sexy voice and very attentive person. I didn't even care anymore when he finally sent me a pic and was pretty huge. He was fit and sporty (completely unexpected).
I don't think it's that simple. Guys may focus more on physical traits and less on personality, but when they're actually confronted with someone who doesn't fit their required physical traits, they often make exceptions because they like the person. For example, I could say I want a woman who's in good shape. But then I might meet someone who I really hit it off with, only she's a bit overweight. Because I like her, I'm willing to look past the fact that she's not "my type" and, if anything, it forces me to reevaluate just what my type is.
Yes, yes, yes.
An ex of mine once had a very specific type. He mostly dated Asian women. His ex-wife and the ex prior are petite Asian women. That was his type. Then when he began dating again after taking time to himself following the end of his marriage, he dated a couple Hispanic and white women. The woman he dated before me was white. They were all <5'6" and petite. Then he met and fell for me. I was everything he was looking for, but was 5'9.5", a size 10 and the first black/white woman he's ever dated. He later discovered that I was exactly his type, as his type broadened because of me. He began to appreciate different sizes of women, and liked curvier bodies. He prefers a healthy physique, but is not longer opposed to dating women who aren't petite or over a size 4 or 6.
Yes, we all know that looks aren't everything. Let's say you meet someone who's interested in you who has a lot of qualities that you find attractive. Let's say that the person is also physically attractive, but just not what you usually go for. If you've been obsessed with blondes all your life and always imagined yourself with a blonde, would it be fair to "settle" for a brunette if you know that your love for blondes is so deeply ingrained that you'll never EVER really stop lusting for blondes? (No, this isn't about Elliot Rodger.) I'm just asking whether it's possible to go against your type and truly be happy with that decision. What do you think?
I think it doesn't matter. In fact, using your example of blonde hair, I think most men are obsessed with women having blonde hair (bottle and not), but not all women color their hair blonde (thank goodness), and they still get married even without Clairol.
I keep ending up with guys that typically date white women. These are black men btw. And I'm a black woman. Im
not sure why these types like me because I don't really look like a white woman but for whatever reason I tend to attract this type heavily and so yes I def. think its possible for people to be open to those outside of their type. I tend to find it difficult to be attracted to men outside of my type though, but it has happened quite a few times.
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