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I do not beleive 'there's someone for everyone' I'm 34 and have yet to meet one person. So it's all B.S. to make people feel better about their circumstances and it usually comes from somebody that already has an S.O.
I do not beleive 'there's someone for everyone' I'm 34 and have yet to meet one person. So it's all B.S. to make people feel better about their circumstances and it usually comes from somebody that already has an S.O.
Not so long after I gave up met 2 wonderful in succession
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Well you just have to know your limits lets be real most couples are evenly matched when it comes to looks so you got to find your match.
I don't want a match dude, I want someone for whom I feel love, and who loves me back. And the sexual attraction has to be there which means she has to be a 10 in my eyes. I see at least 20 women I would consider a 10 every day (each of these 20 tens are people I didn't know existed the previous day). People I feel drawn to romantically, within that set of 10s, I might encounter once every three years or so.
Plus being a 1 in the eyes of others doesn't mean you're attracted to people whom you consider 1s.
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I do not beleive 'there's someone for everyone' I'm 34 and have yet to meet one person. So it's all B.S. to make people feel better about their circumstances and it usually comes from somebody that already has an S.O.
Yep, I know how you feel. I'm 36 and I've met five or six in whom I was romantically interested, but none of them felt the same way. It's easy for someone who doesn't have any difficulty finding someone who reciprocates their feelings that we'll find someone also.
I don't want a match dude, I want someone for whom I feel love, and who loves me back. And the sexual attraction has to be there which means she has to be a 10 in my eyes. I see at least 20 women I would consider a 10 every day (each of these 20 tens are people I didn't know existed the previous day). People I feel drawn to romantically, within that set of 10s, I might encounter once every three years or so.
Plus being a 1 in the eyes of others doesn't mean you're attracted to people whom you consider 1s.
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You just said what i said but in more words.
But, you were saying that because I'm a 1 I therefore should find another 1 and somehow manufacture feelings for her despite not being attracted to her. I'm saying two things, firstly, that in order for romantic feelings to exist there has to be sexual attraction, and if I consider the person to be a 1, that means there is little to no sexual attraction on my part; secondly, people for whom I have romantic feelings are usually in the set of people I consider to be a 10, and it is very rare for me to feel that way. The 20 or more people I meet every day whom I consider to be tens are that way in terms of sexual attraction, but feeling like I love them in a romantic sense is very rare indeed. It has been at least four years I think since I have found a new person whom I would want to be with romantically, as opposed to merely feeling sexual attraction.
One thing I have come to realize over the years, the many bad heartbreaks, and throughout the complete absence of positive experiences with having feelings for people, is that there seems to be a fundamental difference between how I feel comfortable finding someone and how most women (even tough girls who wear the pants in the relationship) want to be found. I want to meet someone in a completely, utterly platonic context, and see if feelings develop over time. Most women apparently only have a small windows of time after meeting someone in which you can either be a potential romantic companion, or you can just be a remote acquaintance. If they find out later that you eventually developed feelings for them they will be uncomfortable, and want you out of their life, unless the feelings are mutual or there is at least mutual sexual attraction.
So, basically, I want a relationship to evolve from a friendship or at least knowing the person in a platonic context, whereas most women apparently want to come on to them upon first meeting, or you are never allowed to have feelings.
Thus, not only is it impossible for me to be in a relationship in practice (due to no car, doesn't know how to drive, live with dad in a 1 bedroom apartment, minimum wage), but it is also impossible in theory, because the way I feel comfortable meeting people for whom I might have feelings is not compatible with how the majority of women wish to be met.
I know there are some people who share my feelings of how these things should happen, because Katie Couric told a reporter once that she hadn't dated since her husband died, that she doesn't date and that "I think these things should happen organically".
My friend Sumiko said there are two ways of finding a person to be in a relationship: through dating or through expanding your social circle. I prefer the latter, but apparently I am in a very, very small minority these days.
But, you were saying that because I'm a 1 I therefore should find another 1 and somehow manufacture feelings for her despite not being attracted to her. I'm saying two things, firstly, that in order for romantic feelings to exist there has to be sexual attraction, and if I consider the person to be a 1, that means there is little to no sexual attraction on my part; secondly, people for whom I have romantic feelings are usually in the set of people I consider to be a 10, and it is very rare for me to feel that way. The 20 or more people I meet every day whom I consider to be tens are that way in terms of sexual attraction, but feeling like I love them in a romantic sense is very rare indeed. It has been at least four years I think since I have found a new person whom I would want to be with romantically, as opposed to merely feeling sexual attraction.
One thing I have come to realize over the years, the many bad heartbreaks, and throughout the complete absence of positive experiences with having feelings for people, is that there seems to be a fundamental difference between how I feel comfortable finding someone and how most women (even tough girls who wear the pants in the relationship) want to be found. I want to meet someone in a completely, utterly platonic context, and see if feelings develop over time. Most women apparently only have a small windows of time after meeting someone in which you can either be a potential romantic companion, or you can just be a remote acquaintance. If they find out later that you eventually developed feelings for them they will be uncomfortable, and want you out of their life, unless the feelings are mutual or there is at least mutual sexual attraction.
So, basically, I want a relationship to evolve from a friendship or at least knowing the person in a platonic context, whereas most women apparently want to come on to them upon first meeting, or you are never allowed to have feelings.
Thus, not only is it impossible for me to be in a relationship in practice (due to no car, doesn't know how to drive, live with dad in a 1 bedroom apartment, minimum wage), but it is also impossible in theory, because the way I feel comfortable meeting people for whom I might have feelings is not compatible with how the majority of women wish to be met.
I know there are some people who share my feelings of how these things should happen, because Katie Couric told a reporter once that she hadn't dated since her husband died, that she doesn't date and that "I think these things should happen organically".
My friend Sumiko said there are two ways of finding a person to be in a relationship: through dating or through expanding your social circle. I prefer the latter, but apparently I am in a very, very small minority these days.
Well it suck to be you than I never had a problem getting woman and i have dated woman that some would call ugly and dated some woman that people said how in god green earth did you get her to go out with you.
My point being if you look like corky from life goes on and trying to date shakira the singer it not going to happen.
It takes a really special person to still act like they're okay even though they don't feel like it, to smile and be friendly to other people even when they're stressed the heck out, or depressed because of their situation. Maybe no one is like that 100% of the time, but if they try to be - it changes how they feel about themselves and how other people see them.
People tend to respect and admire someone who keeps their stuff together in spite of the odds against them. In my experience that counts for more than looks.
Why? Because that shows character and strength. Thats the person I want to be, and try to be, and the kind of person I want to have in my life.
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