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Interesting topic. Makes a guy look at himself and who he is. Why you are the way you are and how you define yourself as a man. And how that transfers to your relationship with your lady.
I shy away from single word descriptions as , to me, they can sound self grandeurizing fairly quick. Lol Of course I pretty much know enough less flattering things they could be balanced out with.. Firstly, my relationship with my woman comes first on my priority scale. I judge my manhood a lot on how I interact with her. Firstly, I like to make her laugh. At various intervals in the day, when we have a full day together, I'll go off on a silly spell or get to just playing. And when she's off to work or I'm off to wherever, I always leave her laughing, smiling at the very least.
As a man, I take care of the business needs tending to. .meeting my obligations is important to me, and this is a team effort. My lady and I talk. We, emphasis on we, look things over together. Never would I disinclude her on anything.
We both have children from our previous relationships. They are all grown. That doesn't mean its any easier being a parent than when we were swapping diapers. Actually MISS those days , in comparison, sometimes. We don't cross parent each others kids, but when things get emotional for one of us where our kids are concerned, we listen and venting is totally allowed. With that as an example, another huge part of my manhood is knowing my woman's emotions, moods and how she reacts to various things. I can't support her if I don't know where and how to prop her up.
I LOVE being a man. I LOVE being her man. I love everything that goes with that, no matter what it is, and I will see to it she knows, every day, how much I love her and that I take her counting on me to have her back dead pan serious.
I don't take anything for granted. Never. Goes with the territory to pay attention to the little(or seemingly) things. I constantly watch for subtle clues, small changes and such. I tune in. If something seems off, I won't let it fester. We both do this. But, being tuned in and mindful of her is another manly duty.
While we love to bum around the house in shorts and sweats, when we go into public I want to look good for her. So, I came pride in myself. I don't let myself go. I stay groomed( some days better than others) always clean and smelling like her man. Its not like she never sees me filthy after working on the plumbing or one of the cars, but I don't expect any cuddling up when I look that way either. Lol I want her to be able to be proud of me, as HER man. So, even at my age, there's always room for improvement as a man.
I freely admit when I'm wrong and cop to my mistakes. I own my actions and opinions, and will answer for them, whether I was right or not. Especially when I'm not, and we give each other breaks for being human. I NEVER harp on her mistakes. Ever. Just accept it and move on. I don't want anyone, especially her, to think I think I'm perfect. This is a binary operation. I want her to point out my mistakes. Constant self evaluation never hurt anyone. Just so long as its positive. I'm looking to improve, not punish myself. These are a few things I define my manhood by. And yea...I do love being a man.
The one thing I like about being a man is how you can get away with being ugly as you get older...I think sometimes about how much it must suck to age as an attractive woman...I mean, of course you'll have those women who'll always interject with the ol "whatteryatalkinabout...i draw more dates from more young, hotter billionaire men in my 60's than I ever did in my 20's...if anything I have to turn the young studs down here in my golden years!"
and that may be so...im not saying it isnt true for some women, but the beautiful women I know in real life, who are beginning to age seem so unhappy with the toll the aging process is taking on them aesthetically. ..and they seem alot more concerned about comparing their looks to that of a 25 year old's, than say, I or any other man I know does. I know women are like wine etc and all that...but I would think that it has to suck to have once been these ravishing women, who could turn the heads of virtually any guy, to now feeling as though they have to significantly lower their standards for even the common lowly man to try to woo them. And this isnt just a matter of the old wives tale that these women are wanting to take better care of themselves as they age, than men want to take care of themselves as they age...as these women are far from being healthnuts themselves.
I think as a man, you're much more accustomed to not being desired any way...or at least not knowingly being desired. But for women, it seems like they can go their whole lives accepting, rejecting or turning down men who dont meet their standards, but when the prospects that approach you start drying up in your later years, if ever, that seems like it could be somewhat of a downer. For men, youve never really waited to be approached anyway, so the difference isnt so stark...you still approach women you have interest in, or those you think you can pull, as you age and youll still be getting rejected here and there either way, young or old.
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I like men. You all have a bunch of advantages, and a bunch of "the short end of stick" going on. Just like us women.
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sometimes, I think it would be nice to walk/run around with lady parts instead of man parts. Does this call for a revocation of my man card?
What lady parts exactly?
men can grow 'man boobs", grow long hair, and have a big gut- mimicking pregnancy. All you need to do is cut off your pecker
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. Firstly, my relationship with my woman comes first on my priority scale. I judge my manhood a lot on how I interact with her. Firstly, I like to make her laugh. At various intervals in the day, when we have a full day together, I'll go off on a silly spell or get to just playing. And when she's off to work or I'm off to wherever, I always leave her laughing, smiling at the very least. 
