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So if you broke up why does it matter that your parents have banned him from their house??
Or are you saying you broke up but got back together??
No offense, but you are making it difficult for us to understand your situation.
Bottom line is this...if you know you have personal issues that make being in a relationship difficult then stop trying to be in a relationship!
Get yourself to a therapist, figure your problems out and focus on taking care or yourself and your kids.
ok, I'll break it WAYY down for you.
Yes, we broke up and got back together.
It matters because I care about my parents, and because they hate him and don't allow him at their home, it makes it very difficult during the holidays and birthdays, etc.
I wouldn't say I have "issues" they way you are implying. I never lived on my own (without mom and dad) until I lived with him. So I didn't know how to budget. Especially with just one income. I didn't always keep up on the laundry, or the dishes, or any cleaning for that matter.
Yep. Broke up for a whole month. They've been together for 5 months now, and it's better then ever, complete with "not as much fighting".
Is that sarcasm I sense.
Better than ever I guess can equate to better than it was when I left. We are both working on ourselves, including going to counseling (individual and couple). So yes, it is better. We were both able to realize our short comings and take the steps to make ourselves better.
I still don't always do the laundry as often as I should. The house doesn't sparkle, but I'm trying- therefore, yes there is "not as much fighting"
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Umm... I'm confused. April 2012??? Do you mean 2014?
Also... 2 kids? Are you still pregnant?
Soo... this dude is dating you when he's got a kid and is a single parent, and you have a kid (and are pregnant with another kid?) and are single parent, but you two don't have any kids together?
Is that right?
I dunno... if he's willing to tolerate your "difficult" behavior, you might wanna hang on to that one as a single mom who never married either of her kids' fathers.
Or do they have the same father?
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I dunno... if he's willing to tolerate your "difficult" behavior, you might wanna hang on to that one as a single mom who never married either of her kids' fathers.
Why is it so bad that I didn't marry the father to either of my children? Because I didn't want to be cheated on? I will never understand that logic.
I guess I should go ahead a kiss the ground he walks on while I'm at it. Bless this man for being with someone like me who has two kids and never married their fathers. Nonsense.
He's a great guy, don't get me wrong... But remember, I have to "tolerate" his difficult behavior too.
Initially, the reason for banning him from the home was silly. We got into an argument back when we first started dating, and during this our boys (3 and 4) started bickering in the back seat. My bf turned to his son and said "don't worry, we won't have to deal with it anymore" I was upset (probably overreacting due to pregnancy hormones at the time) and went home (I lived with my parents at that time). They saw me crying, I told them what happened and from that day on they hated him. I obviously quickly got over it.
Um...........
They should ban him from your uterus.
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It matters because I care about my parents, and because they hate him and don't allow him at their home, it makes it very difficult during the holidays and birthdays, etc.
I wouldn't say I have "issues" they way you are implying. I never lived on my own (without mom and dad) until I lived with him. So I didn't know how to budget. Especially with just one income. I didn't always keep up on the laundry, or the dishes, or any cleaning for that matter.
Is that better?
Look, you asked "what should I do?" so I'm going to be brutally honest...
Any woman who has had two kids with two different men and never lived apart from her parents until moving in with yet another man has bigger issues than she realizes.
You are focused on all the wrong things here.
It's like your house is on fire and you are in the front yard saying "I think I'll plant daisy's under the kitchen windows"
Why this man agreed to take you off your parents hands and start paying your way through life is a mystery to me, but it indicates he's not making the best of decisions in life either.
And the reality is YOU TWO ARE PARENTS. You have kids watching and learning from all your poor behavior.
You seem to lack basic life skills and mature reasoning abilities. These things can be learned and you are WAY late in learning them. Please focus on getting some help in self development and building self esteem.
Taking care of becoming the best you that you can be is the greatest gift you can give your kids going forward.
They hate him so much, he's banned from their home.
How do I fix this?
It is already working. Do you really want to base what guy you are with on whether or not your parents like him.
They have almost guaranteed that you will want to be with him, since you will be doing it as a way to get back at them for attempting to have that kind of control over your romantic relationships.
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