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Originally Posted by Roselvr
You haven't posted since the 20th.. getting concerned about you.
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Roselvr, I am here...I have been trying to make it. Between work, my son, and EVERYTHING, I have been trying to handle and take in, I hadn't really had a chance to vent....
But now I do, the other evening, I was sitting around the house alone. My son was in Palestine, TX visiting my aunt and uncle so I was lonely..and bored. My best friend came over and we were sitting around talking, thinking...plotting. we were trying to think of his pin for his voicemail. We tried my sons birth month and year, we tried his, we tried mine, i even tried them backwards...and then something told me to try his mothers....I did and TA-DA!
It worked and he had 17 saved messages. We put the phone on speaker phone and listened. the first few were some that I and his mother had left. There was one that one of his guy friends left and the next one....her..
"Hey honey it's me, I just wanted to leave you a message and say that I miss you, I can't wait to see you later and I want to {bleep} {bleep} {bleep}
. I was in such a state of shock! I couldn't believe it. and It's sad because in my mind I wanted to really think this man who had quickly become a bastard, coward and liar in my eyes was being honest when he told me they weren't having sex. Ok so I went to the next message, one left early in the morning one day and she proceeds to tell him how she enjoyed last night, it was so wonderful, no one ever made her feel like this, blah blah blah
ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?
This was a night where he was supposed to be hanging with the "guys".....So by this time tears are running all over my face and my girlfriend is pissed herself. So I tell her I cant listen to anymore, she asks me what I am going to do? I don't know...Curse him out? Spit on him? I don't I want to channel Angela Bassett from Waiting to Exhale and burn all his things while smoking a cigarette. She drags me out of the house, into her car and across town to her house. Once we get there, she digs up a tape recorder calls the voicemail again and records the messages, I waited in the other room while she did this..I just couldn't hear that stuff again. I am hust beyond belief, I guess my worst fear was true...He was having a
SEXUAL relationship with someone.
He had broken the vows that were so sacred and built on what I thought was "our love and devotion" for one another...
..There is definitely no going back. I was trying so hard to keep a glimmer of hope But all of that is out of the window....That legal seperation is not even applicable anymore, I called my attorney and let him know that I had proof of infidelity and I wanted to file for divorce on the grounds of adultery. plain and simple no need in denying it or lying to myself any longer.
Oh But Wait...
There's More.......
So of course I have seen him and have talked to him..we have a child and I am trying to keep his life as normal and unaffected from all this as I possibly can. Well Just yesterday he came over to the house to see little man. I told him that I had been having some problems with my headlight on my car and that it had blown out and I needed to get another one I asked him if I could take his car, he said sure.....So I go to the store and get the light, I stop by wal-mart (which i really hate) to get a few Items and when I leave the store I begin "cleaning" the trunk to make room for my bags. I see a bottle of medicine that was prescribed in 1/21/2008 for my husband. I look at the name of the medicine,
doxycycline..sound familiar..but I'm not sure...then try to locate the little brown bag they put the meds in on base...I search all over the trunk and I cant find it. So I put the bottle in my purse and put the bags in the trunk. I get in the car and look in the arm rest, the glove compartment, the side of the door, under the seats, the visors, anywhere for the paper belonging to this medicine,
doxycycline..And then I think
my mother is a NURSE! She might know...So I call her up(they went home Friday) and she is at home and I ask her if she knows what
doxycycline is..she says she thinks it is an antibiotic but she isn't sure, she puts me on hold to check whatever she checks....She come back to the phone and the way she is breathing sounds weird....the way she says my name is odd, and she asks me who has
doxycycline I tell her it her son in laws...She Says that it is commonly used to treat....
CHLAMYDIA!!!!!! R U SERIIOUS?!??!?!??! OH MY GOSH.....I just started balling crying everything....My mom tried to calm me down but it was no use....I was a mess, I called my bff told her to meet me at my house, I didn't want to go to jail for attempted murder or worse. I wait for 15 min in the wal-Mart parking lot then head home, I am turning the corner just as I see my bff, Pulling up to my house. So I get out and tell her to follow me. Once we get inside, He gets up as if he is leaving and I tell my bff to take my son for a drive some where and where..back to Walmart to look at toys....She calls my phone and i answer she puts it to her ear and they depart.....I look at this man I am starting to HATE....and I ask him why he lied? Why he hurt me? How the hell he has chlamydia and I don't know about it??!??!?!? WTF?!?! I cry and he just looks, doesnt say a word...and then for a brief moment I drift off, back to when he first came home. We only had sex one time since he has been back and he
insisted on using a condom , because he said since I am not on any birth control, we shouldn't take any chances....heck I was just happy to be getting something....it's been a llloooonnnggggg time. I didnt think twice about that, I thought he was just looking out. I wouldn't want to risk getting pregnant and 3:1 losing the baby....to painful...been there done that 3 times already. So I agreed. But now I know it's because he was having sex or planning on having sex with this girl....We didn't have sex the very day he came back, it was more like 3 days after....So you went and had sex UNPROTECTED with some one and the slept with me.......I was just floored. I told him to get out, that he would never step foot in this house if I was living in it and we would need to work out,
Supervised visitation for our son. he tried to knock on the door, he even kicked it and I went to the house phone and dialed SPD(shreveport police department) When the came out, I told them we were legally seperated and that we had had an arguement and asked them to escort him from the premises. Well of course he cooperated and left for fear of getting in trouble for a domestic dispute at work. Once he was gone the spd stayed until my bff and son came back and she stayed the night with us. This morning I was at the base hospital at 8:30 to get tested for
EVERYTHING. Appears that when I informed public health the girl told that she had a consult with my husband but he lied to her and said that we hadn't had sex as we are seperated....
From what the gyn could see form the initial exam and the microscope in the room, I should be fine, in a cpl days the other test should be back...(please oh please)I left the base hospital and proceeded straight to finance, where they made copies of our seperation papers so that that dependent pay could
STOP......
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